Ok guys and girls I have the most bizarre dating story to share that I just can't seem to get my head around.
i was recently dating this girl for two months. There were sparks flying on the first date and it was only date 3 before things got very physical.
The last two months have just been an amazing blur of sex and us trying to juggle work schedules to maximise free time for more of the same!
she starts telling me things like she thinks I could be her "one", she's falling hard etc it's the best sex she's ever had and I made her feel like no other.
This girl is stunning and I'm starting to get some pretty intense feelings for her too. The more were together the more we can't get enough of each other.
Then one Sunday she says she's coming over and we need to talk. I know it's not gonna be good.
She tells me she's just not ready to settle into a relationship right now!!
The strange twist is fast forward a month and she's with another dude! We couldn't be more polar opposites. I'm in good shape, have all my hair etc this other guy could be a distant cousin of shrek himself!
Neither of us are kids. Me in early 30s and her in mid 20s so I've kind of ruled out any immaturity on her part but seriously what the hell has happened?
Is this girl just plain crazy or have some sort of split personality, gold digging or what. I really don't get this one and have never experienced anything like it.
Most Helpful Girl
Perhaps you liked her more than she liked you? I have had this happen with guys. I thought we had amazing chemistry, the sex was great, and we were spending lots of time together. Only to find out they don't want to be with me. They say they don't want a relationship, next thing I know they are married or engaged or seriously dating someone else. It drives me mad.
Usually when someone says they aren't looking for a relationship, I take it as them just not being interested in me. Anything is possible and tbh most people will settle down if they find the right person. I've seen it happen time and time again. People who had no desire to settle down, have all settled down in my circle. Yet me the one who wants to settle down the most, is single :P
I think you need to just not try to understand her. It will honestly drive you mad. The only thing I can think of is that this guy made her feel something she didn't feel with anyone else. And now she is fine with me.
But again, looks are deceiving. Perhaps they are not happy and maybe they won't last? Either way it sounds like you dodged a bullet there. If she's truly that indecisive about what she wants, imagine being in a relationship with her.1
Most Helpful Guy
Oh man... reading the title and 'bizarre dating story' I knew I'd enjoy reading this. I lost it at the shrek reference
Maybe she let her heart go cray cray and without knowing for sure if this what she really wanted. "Is this feeling the one I think it is?"
Maybe she's been talking to some other guy in the meantime0