I've been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and he hasn't said "I love you" yet. I'm not sure if he's using me for sex, sometimes I just feel like a fuck buddy with a title of girlfriend. Is it possible for him to love me and just not want to say it, or he hasn't fallen in love with me yet? It makes me feel really awful, like I'm unlovable.
No the guys who just say "I love you" whillie nillie right from the start are the ones that are using you. Maybe he doesn't believe in it. Maybe saying the word doesn't mean anything to him. Doesn't mean he cares about you any less he just doesn't see the importance of saying a four letter word.
Here's the real issue. YOU aren't talking to him about it if you came to ask us. YOU need to let him know how you feel and you're worried he doesn't like you and you want more verbal communication of your feelings for each other. He isn't a mind reader and he isn't going to try and fix something he doesn't even know is broken.
I don't know. What I can say is this. Whether he says it or not, talk is cheap. Does he behave as though he loves you? I think the answer to that will reveal a lot.
I'd also tell you that you have women's intuition. Use it. If you gut is saying he's using you, I'd definitely examine things more closely. If that's what your gut says there's a good chance that's the case.
Have you ever told him you love him? I have a rule I live by. I won't say it until she says it first. After that I'll say it whenever. Maybe he's like me on that one.
That's just wrong. Your expectations are completely reasonable, and his behaviour is, at best, thoughtless and insensitive. You absolutely shouldn't allow him to make you feel like this, intentionally or otherwise - you need to talk to him about how you feel and have a proper discussion of where your relationship is going. After a year you shouldn't need to dance around this issue, and if he's not sufficiently smart and mature to deal with it supportively and constructively, well, it's time for him to jog on! Best of luck - you deserve better than this.