Please help here, my friends are starting to put things in my head. Even friends that are girls, me and my girlfriend are great or at least I think we are. She seems very happy, and the sex was always great. We started dating and having sex at least once a week, now it's once every 3 months? I'm the only one to initiate sex, and I get denied quite often. She is either too tired, she feels ill, her head hurts or her stomach hurts. It's gotten to the point that I don't want to even try to initiate anymore because my ego has been thrown into the dirt.
This week is New Year's, my parents are out of town and I'm home alone. My girlfriend and I had plans where she was going to sleep over; and yesterday I got a text from her saying she got her period which is about 2 weeks early from her normal cycle. My friends say that get pissed at their girlfriend's if they don't have sex for 3 days. And some of my friends that are girls asked me "Are you sure she isn't having sex with someone else?". My girlfriend and I have had problems in the past but we sorted them out. Honestly, she says she loves me and I make her happy but is she not attracted to me anymore? I've tried talking to her about it but she just gets frustrated and says things to make me feel guilty.
I'm really stressing out because I love this girl and I treat her like a princess. But I don't want to be with someone who isn't attracted to me the way I am to her. I've been in several relationships before and I have never encountered this problem. And I'm not the type of person to break up over sex but what exactly am I supposed to do to stop this?
Most Helpful Girl
Trust me when I say it's not always about she's cheating or whatever I've been with my guy for 6 years never cheated never even been close and I don't have sex with him as often as he wants heck I can for weeks without it. It's just not always about sex maybe she just isn't that into it as she used to be? My boyfriend gained some weight and sometimes it bothers be but not to much he sort of let him self go. Let his beard grow his hair his belly. And its not to attractive but I still love him and haven't cheated. Maybe she's just not that into it anymore.0
Most Helpful Guy
Time to cut her loose. Let me ask you this, can a girl whose really into you not want to have sex in high frequency in the absence of some personal crisis? It's unlikely. Not a good sign my friend. Then she tells you she's not attracted to you anymore? I would have told her right there she can go find someone else she is attracted to then, and dumped her. Again can a girl who's madly in love with her boyfriend say such a thing? I don't think so. Is it possible to be in love with someone you're not physically attracted to? Nope. I also think she might not have meant not physically attracted to but in general. If that's what she meant again, can you love someone you're not attracted to as in personality ect? No. I believe that is womanese for I don't love you anymore. Didn't that make you ask, "why are you with me then?"
If not it you probably should ask yourself that and her. I'll tell you what I think is going on. You said you treat her like a princess. Either 1. She's using you for what she gets out of you, or 2. Is cheating on you, or 3. Is with you because she doesn't want to be alone until someone else comes along.
Drop her like a bad habit bro. Sorry, and best of luck.0