My opinion is work hard in uni, get a nice career, and just fuking pay the bill already like a gentleman lol way too much time spent in this topic imho. I see it all the time asked/discussed on here. Hbu?
I keep a ledger and send her an invoice to collect the difference at the end of the month
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I just pay, unless she insists. I'm not going to fight her.
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I want 50/50, but not bothered if she doesn't want to pay
I think everyone is confused about why men should pay for dates. I think it displays how interested a man is in you and his ability to support you if you need it. A woman is giving up her Time (youth and fertility) dating a man that she can never get back. Why spend it with a man who is stingy and likely will make a bad partner or won't help you if you get pregnant? If he bitches about dinner, what will he be like paying for diapers or helping you if you are sick? Women are already team players. Men are harder to gauge. I submit if a man can't afford to date a woman, he cannot afford to have sex with her and run the risk of imprenating her or afford to eat up a girl's youth making her wait for him to someday-maybe be ready to make a home together, or odds are he moves on because he isn't mature enough for a relationship and all it could entail.
Because some women (like me) also work hard and we don't like to take from others, especially when we're not in a relationship yet or even close to being in one yet with this person. I just don't think it's a nice thing to do to someone.
Some dates are just a way of getting to know each other and I don't like someone feeling obligated to pay for me when we don't even know if we like each other yet.
I am completely sick of seeing this topic though and all of the whining that goes along with it. They could always just take someone on a cheaper date if they don't have a lot of money as well. Plus in the end it depends a lot on the preferences of both people.
Also it's a lot more difficult to just work hard at college (for some people), especially when you grow up really poor. Not everyone got off to a good start or has anyone to help them.
I feel the same way. I really don't understand how this is an issue. Almost all of my dates pay for me even though I make sure to have money on me in case it gets split. And if I have to pay my own way then so be it. They don't owe me anything , but when they do pay I feel it's a nice gesture of being a gentleman, something a lot of men fail to be now a days.
It depends on the situation man. I was doing tinder for a while. I'm not going to be paying for every date I go on when I was going on 3 a week lol. That's a lot of money. The women completely understand on tinder. If I'm at a bar I don't offer to buy a woman a drink. I see so many women getting free drinks then going no contact to the guy the rest of the night. I'll buy a woman a drink if I already started flirting with her and I'm vibing. My approach would never be hey let me buy you a drink you know lol. If I ask out a woman that I really like then I'll go ahead and pay because I'm letting her know that I'm enjoying her company. That's my way of telling her. At the same time if the relationship continues I don't keep paying. I split it 50/50. I don't want to give her the impression that she is doing me a favor by going out with me.
lol the first. But in all seriousness i just go in under the assumption that i will pay. Then it is a MASSIVE plus if she says 50/50, it means she isn't governed by society and things about others. Boom done >mfw
I expect the girl to offer to pay for herself. I'll insist at least once. Don't really care if she agrees or not. I do want to know that she isn't assuming I will pay for her. That ruins the whole gesture.
As for thoughts before the date:Can I afford this? Yep. Good to go.
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