I'm in my final year at university, and while people I know are beginning serious relationships, it's never something which has really crossed my mind. However, one evening a few months ago, I went to a friend's party and there was a boy there I didn't know; it turned out he was a friend of the host, and was visiting from another university. We went out with friends, and got to know each other fairly well over the next few hours, discussing everything from what we studied to politics; he was unassuming and kind; basically, completely different from the majority of boys I had met up until then. Towards the end of the evening, I felt his hand quite deliberately brush my waist. Giddy with surprise, we ended up "spending the night together";this is something I would not usually do.
However, he was quite keen that nobody find out, including our mutual friends, and here I have to admit my own stupidity, as I told a friend who isn't that well connected with the group he knows, after she asked me what I got up to that night out of concern for my whereabouts. However, another girl got access to her phone, read what I had said, and asked the boy if this was true. A few hours later, everyone in that group knew, although by this time he had left to his own university via train.
Once the excited "hype" of that happening had died down, I realised that I couldn't stop thinking about him;not only was the sex amazing (although I was actually told later that he had been a virgin and I was his first), I felt a connection with him unlike any other boy.
I know it's unlikely I will see him again unless he comes back to visit, and he probably considers me "untrustworthy" now (even though I'm not), as I unwittingly let everyone know, although I will be surprised if he didn't tell his own friends when he got back to university. However, I would love to get to know him better and potentially date him, although I know that if he were interested he would have c
Would you say there is any point in messaging him to say that, if he is in the area again, I would love to get dinner/coffee? Or did he just genuinely want to lose his virginity and consider me a "one time thing", disregarding the fact that we have mutual friends and that he could possibly bump into me again?