My girlfriend and I are both 22, fresh out of college and with full time jobs. We have been dating for 3 and a half years. We took a 3 week euro trip (first time for both of us leaving the country) and it was the best experience ever. I am trying to travel more now that I realize this is the time to do it, however my girlfriend has made me feel bad about the fact that she can't afford another trip anytime within next year (somewhat significant difference in salaries). I am certainly not going to pay for her entire trip. I want to go with my friends sometime soon if they can but my girlfriend makes me feel bad and feel like I'm leaving her behind. Should I feel bad about traveling with my friends while she is saving up money? Of course we shared each other first experience out of the country but I just can't wait around for her to save money to go on another trip.
As long as you behave lol, and don't go somewhere you planned to go together, it's fine. She'll be sad but there's no real reason not to and she should be happy for you too. You say you wouldn't pay for her whole trip, so would you pay for just hotel and she can save flight money and spending money?
You should break up with her. Your money is more important that time with her so you aren't ready for a real relationship. When you are in Europe, she will be at home wondering, "Why wasn't I more important to him than money?"
She should realistically not be the one to hold you back, if you get to go with your friends then great! I don't think you should feel bad, as it's your life, maybe you should ask her whilst she's saving where she'd like to go with you and therefore you can go other places with your friends
She wants to see the world with you so I understand how she feels however she shouldn't hold you back either she should let you go on vacation with your friends but don't be upset if she decides to take a trip with her friends or even alone.
Love is sacrifice! If you take your relationship seriously and you believe she might be the one do not travel without her. Just go once a year with her. If you wanna live life and go on vacations like you are a bachelor you should just stay single.
This is exactly why I think it's better to be single why traveling or be in a relationship with someone who travels and is willing to travel as much as you
Because issues like these occur and one of the partners ends up not going because their SO can not or they break up due to exceedingly different lifestyles and goals
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