I hooked up with her best friend, and planned to break up with my girlfriend after her finals ended. I made plans with her best friend and fell in love with her. We kissed and had amazing sex! But, her best friend ended up transferring to LA for work (am in Bay Area) and she will work with a past, single crush. She left me behind and I have not told my girlfriend. Should I just keep this aside? I realized how much I really love my girlfriend and do not want her to leave me.
I thin you should break up with your girlfriend because there you have her thinking you're into her, when you've done something that would betray her the most and hurt her the most. Ofcourse after you've done the deed you want to stay with your girlfriend, do her a favour and leave because no one deserves what you'e done and you're completely selfish. Sorry to be harsh but its true, you're just looking out for yourself.
Her finding out is worse, it means you were being deceitful.
I mean, you could not tell her and keep your fingers crossed.
Or, just tell her. But if you tell her, don't do it in a "I'm sorry!" Type of way. Just do it the same way you'd tell a friend if you broke his belongings, like "Shit, my bad man". Don't actually tell her "my bad" lol, but you use that tone.
are u kidding me? i think u need to leave. if this other girl hadn't transferred, I'm 100% sure u would have continued seeing her. u don't love the other girl... u loved the sex u had, and thats the problem most y'all guys have. can't differentiate love and lust.
u need to ask yourself, how do u know u love your girlfriend? do u love HER, or are u just afraid of winding up alone?
If you loved her you would have been honest with her. At this point be honest and realize you're only with her because you don't want to be alone. Break up with her. Dont completely be a dishonest piece of shit, just be a partially dishonest piece of shit.
Break up with her she deserves better. You don't love her and you don't love her so called friend. What you and her so called friend was lust and a one time thing. Cheating is a selfish act and hurts the ones we love. We don't hurt the ones we love.