I fall harder than most. I know exactly why most people do, and it is still beyond difficult to stop. For a multitude of reasons, people idolize love, and subsequently their crush. There are a lot of unknowns when you first meet someone, and people like us can't help but fill in those blanks with our hopes, wants & wishes. It's something that I didn't even realize I did when I was a teenager. I'm only 23 now, but it took me until a couple years ago to realize I was. Even though I know... I still can't stop myself. It's a high-risk, self-sabotaging pattern, but imagine what it will be like when we do find that right person. I think clingy is something different altogether though. Falling hard and acting clingy are two different acts.
it happens to people without a strong sense of self. we're the most easily affected by beauty we see in others, and sometimes it gives us strange actions or feelings. if it's a straight-up obsession, that's called limerence.
I fall really hard, not often but when I do I can't think of anyone else. I've only ever fallen for one person and it was extremely hard. It's like they become another part of you and my happiness depends on their happiness.
I didn't fall a lot in my life tbh... I don't crush easily! And it takes me time to develop a crush, most of the time they fade within a couple of weeks! I liked 1 guy in HS, and Liked him A LOT. But it was only time I fell Hard! After him I had a crush last year but I only liked his looks. And Now I fell for a new guy but it's the distance that's preventing me going crazy over him like I did with my first crush lol haha (I wasn't really crazy, but I liked him SO MUCH, too bad I played too hard to get and ignored him smh)!
Only once. A year has gone by and I am dating another guy and I am still crushing so hard over this guy. For me it was because he worked really hard just to go out with me, and the first time he saw me in real life, not a picture... he looked at me like every girl wants to be looked at. I never felt so beautiful before. After a year, and I still think about him all the time and can't stop even if I try. For me, it was the first time I felt love at first sight.
For you, maybe you just want a true romance? And you want them to feel that way about you? Maybe?
I have the same problem and it's hard! I can't let go. I guess it's just the way we are... There's no real reason behind it... Maybe we are wishing on a relationship too hard, that once we get into one, or start hanging out with new people, we crush on them much faster? Make sense?