I've noticed on GAG some guys want the women to be the man in the relationship while still holding onto their gender title. Some of the women on here don't seem to mind as well being the dominant in the realtionship. Is this a type of role reversal or a mom complex?
Some of the examples are the passive aggresive myTakes and questions asking why women aren't asking out guys.
Nice subject. Or is Masculinity under attack maybe not even wanted. Is feminism crushing masculinity. I think modern young men walk a very difficult tightrope between the two.
Maybe your referring to more of the sexual make up sub/dom this does work for some men they even desire it. I think your right there are more women who enjoy being Dom. Or sharing the roll in a switch relationship.
So many guys now have become afraid to approach and interact with girls these days. Those kind of MyTakes and questions are evidence of that, They want to be the "man" without doing the work that makes them a "man". I think there is a kind of role reversal that has taken hold over time, feminism and other things have contributed to it. Though girls deny it and continue to hold onto the hope guys step un within the traditional mating game. Many more girls now are single and lonely because of this.
Society as we know it scoffs at true manhood. I'm old fashioned because I stick to my beliefs, I'm boring because I'm not out smoking dope, I'm mean because I have protective instincts, and I'm a biggot because I don't give excuses just because someone is a minority.
So essentially, young men are not becoming true men as often anymore. Because of this, there are lots of situations where the woman has to "wear the pants"
I'm not saying that's here's anything wrong with a woman asking a guy out, but more and more it's not because she wants to, but it's her only option
Feminism isn't crushing masculinity. It never could. But beta males don't look to alpha males for guidance. They look to society for acceptance. Right now society tells them to stand back and give women more space. And since beta males are wimps, they kindly do as they're told.
Think about your wording for a minute... what does "be the man" mean to you in that context, and why?
There's nothing male about being the dominant one, or vice versa! Why should the male be the one to make the first move? You seem to confuse masculinity with dominance - in my opinion, an obsolete and unhelpful stereotype we should get rid of.
Why aren't all men dominant and all women submissive? Well, why aren't we all straight, or dark haired, or vegetarian? It's silly, archaic thinking to believe it's somehow wrong for women to take charge.
what you're saying is true,, its part of the culture that men are thought since they where little boys so its hard too break from it, im still breaking from it myself,,, a lot of it is gone now,, but you gotta understand a lot of guys are raised by single mothers, what the heck does a women know about being a man nothing she doesn't understand, mothers are raising there male child too be a bitch,
unfortunately I didn't understand this until my later years in high school cause you know its you're mother you love her and believe her, but you know what there's actually a whole movement on this men are starting to talk more, just like the feminist movement there's gonna be a male version not sure when its gonna pop up in full force but it will
I think many men have the, 'you asked for it, you got it' attitude about gender relations.
I don't think asking people out should ever be a mans thing, everyone should take some initiative if they like someone.
As for other things, all I've noticed is lots of men like the idea of being dominated, but loads of gitls like that too- in fact I asked this question here and every girl who voted said she wanted the man to be dominant in bed.
Maybe have a night each? One night he is dominant, one night you are? Sounds fair ;)
No they aren't. They'll be swells of women declaring they ask guys out when they like them but those are a fraction of the women in the world and they most likely only ask out the top 1% of guys deemed most desirable OR think that smiling at a guy or saying hello counts as making a move/asking a guy out.
You also need to examine your idea of what a 'man' is and a 'woman' with your outdated ideas of gender roles.
I think a lot of guys have been brought up being told they should be the same as women, there are no differences between men and women, and that any sort of assertiveness is bad.
For the most part, unless they got in practice and confident at it, most men NEVER liked asking women out or being the responsible one in a relationship (being 'the man' is only all benefit if you're an asshole, if you care about people it's a responsibility). That responsibility used to be pushed on boys who were groomed to take it, and feel they were better and capable of taking it. And they received some perks in response.
Now they're not.
I know many women like to fuck their boyfriends in the ass and control every aspect of the relationship...
They basically lead their SOs. Yes, more women are stepping up to the plate... but not because of men. It's just that women aren't supposed to be submissive anymore