I would love to hear what you prefer or any bad experiences you've had sharing/listening. Thanks
Most Helpful Guy
This is a great way to see what your man is made of. or at the very least how strong the relationship is. This is the basis of making it or breaking it. If you cannot share your deepest feelings with someone you love then who could you?
I always read people very well so I would be able to determine if this person could handle it or even care before bringing up anything personal. However when you do find that person that is eager to support and respect your feelings then it is an automatic next level of moving forward with that person.
I would warn you to evaluate this dudes intentions first as closely as you can. If he doesn't support you well or try to change the subject then I would kick him to the curb at that very moment. because he is not mature enough to handle real life situations and would not be a great candidate for future sources of support needed in a relationship to prosper.
If he does handle it well then be very responsive in a grateful manner because it is very rare at your age that someone would be mature enough to handle real life issues without experiencing the same issues or some sort.
Most Helpful Girl
As a very emotional person, I recommend telling your boyfriend you want to tell him something about yourself and say it's serious. Reassure him you didn't cheat but you feel he needs to know about your past.
Then write out a long ass message. Saying everything about what happened. Or get in a phone/skype call late at night and then tell him if that'll make it easier.
I've never had a bad experience telling the ones I trust my fears and whenever I got seriously hurt. I trusted them for a reason and they almost always completely understood. If they didn't understand something I would explain until they did.
And as the listener, I never judged. I always listened to everything they had to say and then I would either A. share a story to relate with them
B. reassure them I understand or C. reassure them they're not alone.
I would ask questions, I would do my best to make sure I understood exactly what they mean or what happened, how they felt/how they feel etc. I wouldn't share a story to make them think I was changing the subject to myself but I'd share so they know that I can relate with them.
As a girl, I feel that you should just start a conversation about your fears with your boyfriend. It works easier if he's a sensitive/well listener type of guy. Tell him your fears and ask him about his. Then tell him about the time your father, mother, exbf, ex best friend or something really hurt you. Just try to connect with him while you're telling him these serious things.2