In my mind I'm ready to settle I find my boyfriend to be it for me, however we have been dating for a year and some change, i am getting to the point where I want more foundation. Am i rushing? I really don't want to wait 5 years for An engagement
Most Helpful Guy
Year and a half to two and a half years would be my area2
Most Helpful Girl
Not necessarily but I do feel a year is too soon for engagement. At a year is when you're really fully comfortable with the person. After that, you need to feel it out and see how well that works.
For instance, I moved out with my ex boyfriend, whom was my boyfriend at the time, after only 7 months of dating (stupid mistake, I don't recommend it). We dated for almost two years but it wasn't working. We found we couldn't live together, we were in two dif ferment stages in life and wanted different things. I thought he'd be the guy I'd marry, but didn't turn out that way.
I say at LEAST wait until between the 1.5-2 year mark. 2 years is a comfortable enough cushion to get engaged. From the first day you start dating to the one year mark, you're learning about each other. One year hits; you're comfortable. Then from 1 year to 2 years is when you REALLY get to know the person on another level. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be engaged early on, but I think you'll be better off waiting a little longer.0