I don't know how true this is for everyone or not, but in my experience it's been true. Like all guys, usually I'm the one who has to initiate interest. During the course of me (very) brief experience I've realized that there a lot of girls who I tease/so interest in who also reciprocate the teasing/interest thing to some extent. By some extent, I mean that they are usually are difficult to get out and do something with, but at the same time they'll respond to your calls/texts and respond in the same teasing manner anyway and even ask you when you want to do something with them, even though they always end up flaking anyway. I noticed this pattern in girls who are receptive to your advances but ultimately have low interest anyway. You notice this a few times after meeting them and it usually never changes. They like teasing around with you and bantering, but when it comes to hanging out they're flaky. But then they continue to act like that and even tease you about asking them again.
Since it never usually changes with these types of girls, I can only conclude that after sensing this, I should stop wasting my time on them and only go after girls who are into me to begin with. I'm a rookie, so I may not be correct in my assumptions, but I'm wondering if there are indeed girls like the one I outlined above?
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Here;s the deal- if you make the first move and she seems into you, but then later flakes- don't chase her again. If she likes you, she'll make the effort and if she doesn't you won't waste your time. I know it can be frustrating when girls seem responsive and then flake on you, but here's my defense of the few times I've done it: it's hard to flat out reject a guy you think is a good person but just aren't into dating. I've had a nice guy ask me for my number when he met me at work, then call me to set things up and I turned him down, said I was busy. I've had a guy talk to me in class, compliment me, and I talk back to him, but when he asks me out, I say no. Why do I do this? With guy number one, it's because I find it far easier to turn him down outside of work where I wasn't awkwardly required to be polite to him as a customer and I avoid embarassing him in public. With guy number two, it was because while I recongized his potential interest, I hoped it was just a passing thing or my imagination because I enjoyed talking to him and didn't want class to be awkward after.
Now, I know it's not really very fair, and I do try to subtly clue guys in to my lack of interest in such situations, usually it works. If it doesn't, then I guess I'm one of those girls you guys get so annoyed with. Sorry!2