I've been seeing this girl for a bit and she explained to me that the reason she was behaving a bit strange lately is because she just got out of a relationship and isn't looking for anything full on. She's looking for a bit of fun and to keep things light. I told her that it's too early for anything full on to come out of it cos I don't know her that well. She hasn't replied yet. I wanted to ask, does this mean she's after a friendship or just something physical cos she doesn't seem to have a problem kissing me. By the way, I didn't initiate the interest since she got my number of a mate of mine.
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Fun and light I think means no strings and no commitment. Kissing is not necessarily an indication that it will get real physical. But if that is what she had in mind, and she thinks you need to know her better first, then watch out for her to look in another direction. How long since you told her that? What I would do when these things are mentioned, is ask her for more details. What does she mean by strange and full on? What does she call fun and light? You just want to know where the boundaries are. If she wants physical, she may not hesitate to say so - or at least give clues. The right questions can get the conversation really warmed up. Others want you to figure it out or take the initiative. You can experiment to find out, like If you dance in a club, how close does she like to get? If you dance in a setting outside a club what happens? Does she let you take her out and then flirt with other guys? I guess a lot depends on what you mean by really knowing her. If you're concerned she will use you and then disappear, then take it slow. If you don't mind taking a risk that you could get attached, then do subtle things to get her to forget her rules. When she got your number was anything said then? How does she dress? Does she like public places or getting away from them? Watch for signs that she's trying to make someone else jealous.0