My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, we have a 1 year old baby. We work our asses off but don't have much money. I want to buy a house for us, and get out of our shitty apartment, but I need some money to put down.
My friend is a cam girl, and she said she makes like up to $1000 a week sometimes. I really want to make the money on top of my regular job, but I know I will need to tell my boyfriend.
I used to be a gogo dancer (which is no nudity, just dancing at raves and clubs, I danced for Steve Aoki and Waka Flocka) and when I first started that he was upset but eventually got over it and had fun coming to my shows. The way he freaked out about that at first makes me worried he will get mad about camming.
How can I explian to him it's literally just me doing things on camera BY MYSELF and that the money will be really good for us, without either of us having to get another shitty job.
Holy crap you can get that much a week! Can I be a cam guy!
On a serious note I'd just be straight up, explain how much you can make and that you are only doing this too provide the best for him and you're child, and that you love him and will only do it with his support Hope it all goes well
Why don't you just stab a knife right into his heart anyway? Like is money really that much more important to you than having a healthy relationship to your boyfriend and a good role-model to your child?
1. Your physical appearance matters 2. Your personality actually matters 3. You have to make a fan base if you want to actually make a career and that means you have to become well known between a group of people or in other words be an internet prostitute to have a career as a cam girl you can't stay 'anonymous' if you want money. you have to be in contact with at least a group of your viewers to keep them around you paying you. 4. If you have all of those then the hours you spend on cam matters. It is exhausting and putting more than 10-12 hours a week playing with yourself can make you unhealthy. You will never make 1000$ fixed a week if you don't work too hard and don't have a number of fans. So if you want to want to be the average cam girl forget about 1000$ a week. 5. The different things you are willing to do is important. The more you do the more you make.
How much you want to do? You have a boyfriend and have a baby. How many hours do you want to put in it and how deep do you want to go into different fetishes to grow your fan base?
If you don't even want to go fully naked or want to put 5-10 hours a week then don't think about making a career off this. You will make some money for a period of time then you may even lose popularity.
And apart from that, if you really get into it and put that many hours then you will hurt your relationship if not lose it and your child will be affected by it too. If you were single and had no child I would just mention those 5 points and pass. But you have a child.
Also all sexual 'careers' have a very short life. How many years do you think you can do this? I actually talked to someone in summer she said I make as much as I made as a nurse with 15 hours a week, instead of 40 hours a week as a nurse. But she didn't know she could be a nurse for the next 30 years and improve her education and income, but you can be in this for roughly 10-12 years and you will lose your fans and income by every passing year as you get older, 30+.
"without either of us having to get another shitty job." You will have to work another job later in your life to live anyway.
Think clearly. Think about these, think about its longevity, think about your relationship and child, see it in the long term. Then choose.
I don't think without telling something unrealistically optimistic to your boyfriend you can convince him if he really cares. But then maybe he doesn't have a problem. So I would just tell him straightforward.