I'm worried that he's going to disrespect me one day... I don't want that... how can I show him how to treat me
Most Helpful Guy
For starters, before you even meet that guy declare some limits and do not acclimate them no matter what.
A hard limit is something that must not be done. Violating a hard limit is often considered just cause for ending a scene or even a relationship. Examples include “scat is a hard limit for me” or “I have a back injury, so striking on the back is a hard limit”.
A soft limit is something that a person hesitates about or places strict conditions on, but for which they may still give informed consent. An action could be prohibited except under specific circumstances or an area of discomfort that someone wishes to avoid. Soft limits can also include actions that require a cautious approach or — while somewhat appealing — still generate an uncomfortable amount of apprehension in one or more partners.
A requirement limit, or must-limit, is something without which one or more partners will not participate in the scene. Examples include “lots of hair pulling is a must-limit for me” or “if you’re going to flog me, I’ll need lots of aftercare.”
A time limit is a set time period for which an activity or temporary relationship takes place. This is most common for scenes and casual play.
Some couples practice time limitations for relationships. They can be used to set time limits on phases of relationships, such as training or consideration. (copy pasta from wikipedia)
Get into the exercise of assimilate your values in a relationship according to those and figure out what it would take for me to offend you.
If something is a hard limit, just say no and leave if he doesn't get it.0
Most Helpful Girl
You can't teach respect. If someone doesn't respect you in the relationship to begin with, you shouldn't be with them. However, no relationship isn't going to have it's times where your s/o is going to be a little shit, and you have to realize people can respect others, and still treat them badly or get in a fight. Be a strong, confident person, and most importantly, be great on your own... No relationship is going to work out unless each person is a independent individual. That's how you have and earn respect the best way, be the best you can be on your own. But don't think not having the perfect amount of confidence makes it right for anyone to ever disrespect you. You'll get more respect being confident, but you should never be disrespected in any relationship. Cheers. xo0