I asked her if her ex came back into her life would her return for him she said she does not know but that she only wants me I asked her again she said even if her feelings return for her ex she likes me more so I broke up with her after she told me this am I right can I get any reason why I am
confused and hurt
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She should have broken up with you based entirely on your lack of punctuation.
Readers on G@G shouldn't have to be black-belt-puzzle solvers in order to decipher your questions. So take a breath and 3 extra seconds to add commas, capitalization, and periods next time?
The problem with your relationship was that you were needy and insecure. It's ridiculous to expect other people to stop having feelings for their ex's just because they're now with you. That kind of thinking screams "I'm insecure!!! PLEASE LOVE ME MORE!!" So I think you're doing her a favour by letting her go.
Just like getting married doesn't make all men suddenly gay... we will always find other women attractive. That's not a choice, it's just nature. The only time it's problem is when we become focused on someone that we're not dating because it's unfair to our partner. And that is not what your girlfriend was saying at all. Having feelings for someone is completely different than being obsessed with someone. Feelings aren't a choice. Sitting around thinking about someone IS a choice.
And you should really be looking at yourself, asking yourself "why do I care if she has feelings for her ex?" Because all that really matters is how she behaves and how she treats you. If she's being open and honest to your ridiculous questions then she sounds like a pretty good partner.
Now get your head straight. Focus on what you're insecure about and work to resolve your inner conflicts. That's called growing up, and it'll make you more attractive man.