Would you be okay with dating an asexual?
I joined a dating site hoping to find other aces, stating clearly that I'm asexual. But I still got lots of messages from straight guys who didn't seem to think it was a problem. I know they saw it because they'd show that they read my profile and this was written in bold, first sentence. I'm confused, since I figured this would, understandably, be a huge dealbreaker.
Would you be okay with dating an asexual? How do you think asexuality would affect your relationship?
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I would have said no years ago, but as time goes on sex seems more and more like an obligation of relationships rather than something I look forward to, so datjng someone with no interest in sex might be quite liberating, I'd certainly be willing to give it a go if I was ever back on the market.
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I would never. I couldn't be with someone who I couldn't eventually have sex with. It's important.
What Guys Said 15
It's funny cause I've seen people say "Wouldn't you want to be an Asexual if you could?" and like half the comments are "Totally! That'd make things so much simpler."
But then you come here, and you see something that people who wish they were Asexual don't realize. People don't want to date Asexuals. I don't blame them, either. A person's sexuality is at the core of a relationship. Asexuality isn't something to be glorified. It's a challenging sexuality, just like anything outside of Heterosexuality is a challenging thing. I'm a Grace, or gray-ace. I don't have any issues dating an Asexual. But I'm sure you were more curious about Straight guys.
No, I wouldn't. And also I don't think asexuality is something "you are born with", but rather a result/symptom of other aspects of a person and their psyche.
So no, I would not date an asexual, because I think sexuality is a relevant and important aspect of a functioning relationship and secondly because something went wrong with their psyche.
I did... before she really told me she was a sexual!
Had a blast everytime we hung out... i liked her a lot... she gave me a handjob and we fucked once (she said it hurt too much so i stopped outta respect). Give it another try some other time... and then she disappeared saying how great I was but had too high of a libido.. we played around only twice though soo that was a bummer. Not sure if i could date an asexual gal again...
Sex is intimacy with your partner. Without the physical stuff your just friends really. Guys will just see you as a challenge mostly.
Does it mean you don't ever have sex?
sure. we can cuddle and ill fuck someone else when u leave.
How is dating an asexual different than just hanging out with somebody?
No, I don't think I could
no are you crazy, ill fuck an asexual but I won't date one, there to fucking confused
Not if we were the only people on earth.
No. But I suppose I would be okay with seeing if I can change your view on that. Pretty confident in that sense.
Yeah but nah I would never no.
Only people who could date asexuals, are people who are asexual themselves, and or don't want kids
What Girls Said 2
It really depends on the person. Some people would be okay with that.
I have no problem dating an asexual.
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