Western society makes it a pain in the ass. The media constantly tells you that you're a weirdo if you have been single for too long, especially if you don't whore around in the meantime. This encourages people to enter relationships just for the sake of it, taking quantity over quality. There is even such a thing as the "dating game". It includes all kinds of immature bullshit like making people wait, playing hard to get, and generally being manipulative and dishonest about your feelings. So it really is like a classic game: One winner, one loser. And the one who gets more emotionally invested is the loser and will get hurt.
Reason bring, I find that the many women, & men alike are not able to embrace a routine and boring life after marriage. So eventually they'll lose the passion for their partner. So I cherry pick and will only date a girl who is infinitely confident that she can love me forever. She cannot be fickle minded or act on impulses. She has to be lucid minded and must understand that a lasting love is based upon an unwavering conviction of loving her partner.
my experience is that women are like deer in headlights if you try and talk relationship, forget about love. women seem extremely afraid of commitment. that is pretty funny because it is always the guy portrayed that way. not even close.
I don't wanna be hurt. I don't wanna pull down my walls only to be stabbed in my wee little teensy heart. I want to fall in love with a girl that will coddle my heart like a little baby. But I don't know what that girl looks like so my walls are up.