My girlfriend told me that she feel like we aren't doing much on our date, all we do is make out, and she feels we haven't created a strong bond with each others.
She then sent me the following text: "It's just for a while I've been thinking about us and I can't picture us in the future like I don't think that I should feel this way, so I'm just gunna have time to think for a while"
I reply with "just text me anytime you want about your decision and I want us to continue to be together but if you want to move on is ok"
What does this mean and what should I do? Just gave her time? Is she seeing another guy? Are we breaking up soon?
It doesn't sound like she's seeing anyone else. It sounds like she doesn't feel like you two have really connected other than making out.
A relationship needs more than making out to be sustainable. You need to know each other inside and out. Making out is nice, but there is so much more than that.
You both need to know what makes each other happy and sad, what you both are passionate about, and you need to share common goals for the future. She needs to feel like you can confide in her and she should be able to confide in you.
I personally think you are indeed soon going to break up and her mind is fairly made up about it. Shame, you probably didn't actually do anything wrong. If she doesn't value the time you spend together, what can you do?
She doesn't feel you get her beyond the making out. She wants to feel understood and special and the situation between you is just not hitting the mark. She is starting to wonder whether the grass is greener so she is taking some time to consider her options - will I find someone new or should I give him another shot? Someone else may have already taken her eye or her ear.
"Need time" is usually (but not always) a way of separating before breaking up. It's something people say when they don't have the heart to break up with someone. It is a way to remove oneself from the situation with the least amount of confrontation; sometimes the other party will grow tired and just end it themselves and the person "needing time" escapes unscathed.
What she is saying is that you aren't adventurous and she would like you to pick up your game and actually make her feel special.
She's obviously having second thoughts and indecisive about the relationship because it's not progressing beyond ", making out". When people are in a relationship it's important to spend time doing things other than just making out, or you'll just drift apart. You can't build a bond and become close if the relationship is based on sex.
If you want the relationship to develop then let her know you want to spend quality time together too.
How long you two been together? Not bashing on you, but is that all you do (make-out session/sex) on your dates with her?
You really want to work this relationship? Then don't give her space, you work that shit out. She's vulnerable and confused at this point in yalls relationship and a smooth-talker can easily make her drawn to him and forget about you. She's running away, as a man it is your duty to chase. lol i know this shit sounds cheesy, but women love being chased by their man. It's like a confirmation that you still care and love them.
Yeah, it's typical of a girl. You should tell her to step it up and make an effort. She's just as guilty as you for only making out and not getting deeper into the relationship. I wouldn't let her get off that easy. Girls love to say you are the problem when in reality its mostly them.
Its a little too late to do much and there's a high possibility its over she maybe see some one else who she likes... You just have to hope she might just come back don't set your heart on it though if it happens it happens.
I agree with what the other guys here have said.
She probably wants to break up but is only 90% sure and is too cowardly to come right out and say it or risk it, when there's still that 10% chance it might not work out with whoever else she's probably talking to.
Advice? Deal with the fact you're probably splitting up now, get it out of the way, it'll be tough but get your friends round and out for a drink or something.
That text you sent was probably the worst thing you could have done. Don't be warm and give her time like that, she's messing you about! Tell her you don't want to play games and she either wants to be with you or she doesn't, either that or break up with her yourself to save a lot of hassle and quickly move on.
I may get downvoted, but being too mr nice guy with girls like this is probably the worst thing you can do. You have to be assertive with how you approach it. The more you dither, the more girls like that walk all over you. Let her know you won't stand for it and 9 times out of 10, if a girl does have any feelings for you, she'll panic, realise she'll lose you fast if she doesn't quit the games and get back with you.
If she doesn't have feelings though it will at least let her know she can't emotionally manipulate you with her cold behaviour towards you, nor will she be able to have you as 2nd best, and you'll know you're better off out of it and with someone who likes you for you.