If he has a low paying job and won't try to get anything better but she earns decent money. She pays all the bills, mortgage, food etc. how do u think this will work out?
Most Helpful Guy
Logically I don't see why it matters what the two of them make. If the genders were reversed it wouldn't be an issue. Realistically it is a huge problem for most couples.
Women are normally not going to be happy with a guy long term if she is the main bread winner. Instead they want a man that she sees as being on her level or higher. The majority of women still expect men to fulfill our gender roles, even if they don't realize this. Likewise the guy may not feel like a "real man" if he is following a non traditional path.
Gender roles have changed over the years, but every society has had some form of gender roles. This is an important part in standing out as a member of your gender in finding and attracting a mate. Likewise we look for the traits the other gender has to add value to our own lives. This is why it is important that men feel like real men, and for women to be made to feel like a woman. It validates our success as members of our gender.
Perhaps if all of society said making money was girly, and that real men stayed at home and cooked and cleaned then such a relationship could work. However if a couple want a happy long term relationship they almost always need to follow gender roles to some extent. The idea that men and women can inhabit the same roles and be happily married is foolish. They just end up fighting over power, while pushing responsibility on their partner.
"he has a low paying job and won't try to get anything better" This pretty much tells me how disappointed the woman is that he isn't acting in the way she thinks men should act. Clearly she doesn't care that he likes his job, and instead only cares about him having a job that she approves of. Gender roles are vital for happy relationships in any society. Otherwise we end up with a hookup culture were people don't want to commit.1
Most Helpful Girl
It will not work out because he "won't try to get anything better".
A person with no drive or ambition is highly unattractive and she'll get annoyed with such a slobbish nature pretty quickly considering that she made a career for herself.
Guys seem to be more forgiving in that department as long as she's hot and sweet, they tend to not care about the rest.
70% of the time I earn more than my boyfriend, however we always split all the bills down the middle. Whichever one of us earns more that month pays for all the groceries too.
He's doing his business and is working hard to build a future and that's what's attractive. He's not just sitting on his arse in a deadbeat job going "whatever, she earns more, so I don't need to try". I could never be with such a person.0