My best friend is a guy. He is basically my brother. I talk to him almost every day and we are super close. Our relationship is completely platonic. If I got a boyfriend, if he didn't like my best friend or didn't want me to be friends with him, we wouldn't be together anymore. My best friend is interested in a girl and I am good friends with her too and they have a crush on each other and she doesn't care that we are so close because she KNOWS that there is nothing romantic between us. She knows that I would never do anything to hurt her like that. I would want my boyfriend to get to know my guy friends and hopefully get along with them. If he had a girl bff, I might get slightly jealous but not enough that I would tell him that it's either me or her. I'm not a huge fan of ultimatums. I have given one out to a good guy friend of mine and he told me he chose me, but went behind my back and did exactly what I asked him not to. Next time I see him I'm letting him know that I don't want to speak to him again and that I want him to never contact me. I want my boyfriend to trust me with my guy friends. I'm not going to hang out alone with them unless he is okay with it. Really, there is only one person that I would hang out alone with and would hope my boyfriend would be okay with and that's my "brother" haha. Every other guy, I wouldn't do that. I would hope he would do the same.
As long as it is in the open I don't care. The guy I like was telling me he was going to try to meet up with our mutual friend one of these days for a movie but he doesn't want to drive all the way to pick her up. I work s lot and he has more free time. I was like tell her hi!!! I love that girl. I have a guy friend at work. I am now friends with his wife. I helped her put together a birthday deal for her husband at work cause of security issues I had her meet with the kids and friends in the lobby with cake so I would have him go downstairs and get surprised. As long as it is open and the relationship is respected it is all good.
If you have issues with him having friends of the opposite gender there something wrong or that needs to be worked on in your relationship
it all depends on the situation and the friend they are going to hang out with, for example:
fine - boyfriend hanging out with girls and guys at a party not really okay - boyfriend hanging out late at night watching movies with close girl friends
Basically one on one time alone with their friend that goes a little beyond the norm. More examples:
fine - shopping & eating at a food court fine - drinks that lead to meeting up with other friends eh - going to a sports game together (I take sports very seriously and for me consider this a date idkw) not okay - movies just the two of them not okay - beach just the two of the
In conclusion: Group activities are fine, one on one time with the person - preferably no but hey they are their own person and I won't stand in their way until i think they are actually cheating.
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