My best friend has been dating this shitty sleeze ball of a guy on and off for like 3 years now and she recently just had a baby with him. He's verbally abusive towards her, very controlling, he cheats on her (and she knows he does) , he's an alcoholic and he doesn't help take care of their baby. It seems as though every time she breaks up with him, no matter what he has done, she can't help but to take him back less than a week later. I've been there for her through everything and I've tried many of times to get her to leave him but she claims that its impossible for her and it's getting hard for me to remain friends with her, but we've been friends for 13 years. So my question is, why won't she leave him? Any ideas? Any tips for me to help her?
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She won't leave him because she is deeply emotionally invested in him, it is very easy for people on the outside looking in to see it is an unhealthy relationship and should be ended but it is much more difficult for the emotionally invested person to realize what is going on and break free. I feel for you because I have been there it is hard to watch a friend constantly be hurt. The best thing to do is to be there for he and stay supportive she will never leave him if he is all she has, friends are the best tool in this situation. Next time they break up take her out and have a blast invite some good looking men along and show her how much fun it is to be single and that she does not need the relationship because she has good friends, with a little bit of luck she will take a liking to one of the male friends and be her pillar as she departs the unhealthy relationship. This is how it went down for me and my friend and she is now with an Amazing man who worships the ground she walks on without her friends she would still be stuck in a horrible abusive relationship.1