Why do people put so much emphasis on race when it comes to dating?
"No black guys, sorry"
"I will never date an Asian guy" (Asian guy here, hurts to hear this one)
"I prefer white men/women"
Yes, I hear these statements quite often. I've been rejected many times purely on the basis of my race (even by Asian women, stings a little more coming from them).
I've dated within my race, outside my race, and I've seen no impact on how race affects our own relationship. We do normal date stuff, we have a normal sex life, I get along with her parents, and we share our feelings have mutual trust, and love each other. Race has had absolutely zero impact on my past relationships.
Seeing that race was a non-issue (at least in my experience), can someone tell me why is race such a dealmaker/dealbreaker for SO many people when it comes to dating?
Most Helpful Girl
Some people have a preference (when they prefer to date outside their race) and they want to stick to it. Others are uncomfortable with interracial dating.
Some people are afraid of what their family and friends will think if they date outside their race. Others had bad experiences with interracial dating, so now they prefer to date within their race.
Some people prefer to date someone who share the same culture as them, and sometimes that implies having the same skin color as them.
Other times they were only exposed to a certain group of people, so they're attracted to people who belong that group.
Some people believe in stereotypes.
There is people who think that interracial relationships are wrong or gross.
Some are simply attracted to people from different races. And then there are the ones who are racist and reject others simply because of their skin color.
So, as you can see, there are a lot of reasons to explain why race is so important to some people when it comes to dating.3
Most Helpful Guy
Would you really want to even date a person that thinks like that anyway?
Sometimes It's because of the close minded parents/relatives/up bringing.
There is nothing wrong with the "I prefer" statement. You shouldn't be offended by that, They didn't say "I only date". I wouldn't be offended if the girl said I only date fat people... Ok I fit, not fat and I'm ok with that. Same thing with girls that only want to date guys over 6', that's fine, I'm glad they saved me the time I would have wasted on them.2