dating a guy for sometime then finding out he is broke- or he has no money at all from time to time.
I make a lot more money than him due to my education.
I don't want anything from him, but it just sounds awkward that he has no money for coffee or tea now. Realistically, should I continue dating him or should I wait and see?
- I shouldn't date himVote A
- I should wait and see if things go betterVote B
Most Helpful Guy
What I think you need to understand that women often expect men to fulfill certain gender roles, even if the woman doesn't realize that she does. In your case finding out that he doesn't come close to having the ability to do so makes you uncomfortable.
A lot of relationships end, when a guy was doing okay financially, but for whatever reason runs into trouble making money. As soon as a man is no longer able to act as a provider the woman commonly leaves him, or she mistreats him until he leaves her. The thing is these women act like they don't even understand why they resent her man not making enough money, even if she still has plenty for the family while he gets back on his feet.
I think you need to deal with this so it doesn't cause you problems in the future. What if one day your husband gets laid off and can't find a new job for a long time? It will feel just as weird to you then as this does to you now. As long as he isn't sponging off of you, and brings something to your relationship then what he makes really shouldn't be a problem.1
Most Helpful Girl
Im into talented people. Money is not important but being able to make money to take care for life is important. Moreover to some extent money prove a person ability. All in all, a guy dont need to spend money on me or dates but he need to have money.
I mean girls dont need to rely on men but they do need a guy that they can count on.
Can a guy who dont have money for a cup of tea can take care of himself and someone else?