What I think you need to understand that women often expect men to fulfill certain gender roles, even if the woman doesn't realize that she does. In your case finding out that he doesn't come close to having the ability to do so makes you uncomfortable.
A lot of relationships end, when a guy was doing okay financially, but for whatever reason runs into trouble making money. As soon as a man is no longer able to act as a provider the woman commonly leaves him, or she mistreats him until he leaves her. The thing is these women act like they don't even understand why they resent her man not making enough money, even if she still has plenty for the family while he gets back on his feet.
I think you need to deal with this so it doesn't cause you problems in the future. What if one day your husband gets laid off and can't find a new job for a long time? It will feel just as weird to you then as this does to you now. As long as he isn't sponging off of you, and brings something to your relationship then what he makes really shouldn't be a problem.
Im into talented people. Money is not important but being able to make money to take care for life is important. Moreover to some extent money prove a person ability. All in all, a guy dont need to spend money on me or dates but he need to have money. I mean girls dont need to rely on men but they do need a guy that they can count on. Can a guy who dont have money for a cup of tea can take care of himself and someone else?
im highly educated and have one of the highest IQ's than any of my peers, but i still can't get a job so im broke... i would be able to have a few dates but after that it prob just be coffee or a movie at my place... even if i didn't have money i would still make the date special and intimate to show that i like the person.
I'm between jobs at the moment and I'm pretty much at the point where I can't really spare money for a coffee. If I were dating someone, I'd be honest and tell them about my situation and what I'm doing about it; I'm not dating them for their money, I'm dating them to see how compatible we are as people, as companions and as partners, ya know?
Personally, I don't care how much my partner makes. I just want her to give a hard-nosed effort and have a plan to pursue one of her passions.
With all that said, if someone can't afford a coffee or a tea then they might not be suited to being in the early stages of dating. If he'd like lost his job or something a few months into a relationship, then that's no biggie, but right now I imagine he'd wanna put his best foot forward while still in the early dating phase.
He might be going through a tough time in his life right. Might be hard for him to find a decent job. But I say you should NOT leave him over that, because that could mess him up emotionally to find out a girl he likes left him over monetary issues. It wouldn't be a nice feeling. I say you stick it out and just try to help him. Boost his confidence, because he may be feeling down, but just doesn't show it on the outside. A man likes to know a women will stick by his side when times get hard.
If I were in my late 20s or older then it'd be an issue because I would be concerned that he couldn't manage his finances. But I'm just starting out so I wouldn't judge a guy for also just starting out as well.
Honestly, for me it depends. If he had intentions on working towards getting to a better place, I'd stick around, especially if I had the money to do so. If he just didn't care and had no ambition I would move on.
Well most of the time I'm broke due to being an adult and paying all my bills and shit. I work hard for my money and my boyfriend is in the same boat plus we grew up poor. But then again that's me. If you care about money more than him then maybe you shouldn't be dating him? Life is hard.
I don't think money should be a big deal. I mean, the guy I'm currently with always goes Dutch which I prefer so far. If he can't pay for the places you're picking maybe you should try to help him come up with date ideas that accommodate his budget.
It sounds like you've already made your decision about the kind of man you want to be with - the dominant breadwinner type. But you sound like a capable woman, so perhaps you could find the "house husband" type as well. There's nothing wrong with wanting either. However, the most important thing is not how much money he has now, but rather his potential and outlook on life. And most importantly, how well he treats you.
Money comes and goes but a great personality in a guy is hard to come by.
You should stick around. It says a lot about u if you don't. What happens if a rich guy turns his nose at you because you can't afford designers or whatever haha. It's all about perspective. There's always a person better then the person your with. A greedy person is never satisfied.
If the table was flipped, what would you want him to do?
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