So I have this friend that is mutual friends with a large portion of my circle of friends. She fun to hang around and we have always gotten along. However she has recently made it known to me and others in my group that she has a romantic interest in me.
I am not interested in her romantically. I however am not interested in in alienating her or hurting her feelings ethier. I must tread these waters very carefully as the fallout of this could have negative consequences amongst all of my closest friends.
I also know this girl well enough that she will want a detailed explanation as to why I don't want to date her. Which leads me to my question... How do I tell her that I don't want to date her, and that the main reason is that she is a single mom and I don't want all the responsibility and burden that goes with entering into that situation?
And before you type the answer "try it! Single mom's are great! You might end up liking it!" No... I won't like it. I know this about myself.
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You don't owe her a detailed explanation.
If she's a single mom, she should get her shit together as she's in an incredibly responsible business of raising another human being.
She needs to understand that nobody owes her a romantic relationship nor a fucking explanation. If she can't handle a simple "I'm not interested", she's unfit to be a parent.
I find it incredibly obnoxious that you're unable to decline this woman's advances without her causing a shitstorm. What sort of parent is she, if she can't handle one of the most common things most people experience in life: rejection. How the fuck is she supposed to teach her child to deal with upsetting topics if she can't even handle a "no".
The best course is to be frank about the fact you're simply not attracted/interested. It should be enough. If she demands anything beyond that, she will make herself look like a fool, not you. Banging on about wanting a detailed explanation is crazy and obsessive.5
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