So I've never had a girlfriend or been on a date, and I always here this phrase "put yourself out there more!" How does a guy do this? I do go to the gym nearly every day, and have a job, and occasionally go to group meetups for church related stuff. Should I just hold a sign in the middle of a crowd which says "date me, I'm single!" I don't understand what to do.
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Just meeting girls isn't enough, "getting yourself out there" means getting to know them on a more personal level. You don't have to be a smooth talker or a mysterious bad boy, just genuinely interested in getting to know them. Really dig for those things that they value and hold dear to them and truly get to know them as a person. By getting to know someone on a deeper level and taking off their masks is how you start to develop feelings for another person, and vice versa. If you need some help with what kind of things to ask to get deeper conversations:
If you had to re-live 1 day every day for the rest of your life, what day would you choose?
What is the most important person you have ever had in your life?
What do you consider to be the biggest turning point in your life?
Name 1 thing that makes you feel nostalgic.
What do you bring most to a friendship?
What makes you feel supported/cherrished/safe/loved/powerful? ( ask only 1 at a time )
How do you show your love to others?
What is the biggest lie you tell yourself?
What is your biggest fear and why?
What lesson did your parents teach you that resonates the most with you today?
And other questions asking about why they made the decisions they did and why they like what they like0