im 23 and never had sex. im a beautiful woman and can get anyone I like but im too reserved. I grew up in a culture where sex is a taboo. Im very very shy in bed and had my first kiss at 22. Am I missing out? and should I have casual sex before im 30 and ever experienced? will I regret this decision? should I live for myself? or think about my future husband?
I personally look down on casual sex. I think its gross, unevolved, and i think people who participate in it have very little self control--and that's just with people in general.
If we are talking about a potential girlfriend, I'd MUCH rather her be a virgin. If she's had one or two partners, I MIGHT go out with her, but its more likely to turn her down. It'd really bother me, and I'd be super hesitant at least.
yeah, on heartache, std's unexpected pregnancies, and, spiritual damage, and a bad rep. from various sources, i've learned that, for a female, the first time time is a very emotional thing. meaning, if things do go wrong, it can be very hard for you to trust again.
There is NOTHING wrong with not having sex, it's so publicised and almost socially unacceptable to not have sex before *insert age here* but there is no pressure, wait for the right guy and the experience will be even more pleasurable.
You're not missing out at all hun. Stay pure and wait for the right guy to slip a ring on your wedding finger. If he loves you enough? He'll wait for the right time and not risk anything knowing that it may put you in misery in the the long run. Being pure allows you to be praised by different guys who wants a fresh lady.
Think about your future husband, girlfriend!! I have yet to meet even one person who regretted waiting til they were married! And being raised the same way it sounds like you were, I think its highly likely that if you decide to give it away to just anyone you will regret it and probably end up hurting emotionally more than you expected.