So here I am, a 54 year old man, who happened to sleep with a young girl who was only 19 just the other night. I feel a bit sick by this, as my own daughter is 23. My daughter might hate me if she found out about this. The girl I slept with has my number and texted me earlier to meet up again next week. I think I am going to delete her number as I feel this is innapropriate due to our age gap. The girl wants a relationship, and I never told her no.
Should I ignore her and move on, or try it out? Also, am I a creep for doing this?
its a gray area socially its frowned on because you will be seen to be taking advantage of her lack of life experience and if that compromise your relationship with your daughter I think you should let her go
I mean it's not illegal. It's definitely weird, but everyone is weird. You're not really a creep, especially if she wants you, she made her choice. I don't know about your daughter though. If you fear it might really put a strain on your relationship with your daughter, might be best to back off. Then again, if you like the 19 year old, and she made you feel happy, then perhaps you should consider going on with it. However it sounds like this thought disturbs you anyways, so it sounds like you've kinda already made your decision about what you want to do.
It seems like the girl very much wanted it. You're not a creep, but taking a relationship with her would be a little weird. You obviously feel very bad about it, so Id say explain her it was a mistake (as nice as possible) and move on.
What exactly does a 54 year old have in common with a 19 year old?
A bit unfair that you're making a hasty decision without her input in the matter, wouldn't you agree? By the sound of it, this girl felt like wanting to get to know you more and doesn't seem to mind that you're decades older than her. Sure your daughter might get upset, but she also wants you to be happy and others would too in the matter, but are their opinions matter that much if she makes you happy and you enjoy her company?
I'd speak to your daughter about it before you start introducing them, who knows maybe they'll become best friends. You won't know until you've communicated this shit through.
I dated a girl briefly who was 25 years younger than me, and 1 year younger than my daughter. I think if my daughter found out, she wouldn't care. I wouldn't worry about it except to realize that for a long term relationship, you might have some generational issues. But with enough determination on both parities parts, that can be overcome.
If she wants to then why not but you have to make it clear what you want out of the relationship. Also I wouldn't recommend having serious relationship as the age difference will probably cause problems. I see no harm in fooling around thought as long as your both enjoying it.