I have to be attracted to them. I've had at least one friend where the intellectual and emotional chemistry was off the charts, where we both acknowledged that being with each other was a turn-on, but there was just no physical attraction for either of us. She's cute, but the thought of seeing her naked just did absolutely nothing for me. I couldn't date someone without liking their personality, and I tend to find those people more attractive the longer I know them, but physical attraction is necessary too.
No. While I'm not a shallow being and personality is very important when it comes to me finding someone attractive/dating them, it doesn't mean it is the only thing of importance. I need to be physically attracted to the person too. This is why I'd rather start off as friends. I have fallen for people who I would usually not have liked if it were just based on physical attraction, but when I got to know them as a person, not "eye candy," I found them to be much more attractive than I would have thought before.
Nope. Not even a chance. Default attractiveness is mandatory. Now, there's a difference between not being attracted to someone and thinking they're unattractive. If I wasn't attracted to her, but didn't view her as ugly, then I might consider it. But, if I viewed her as entirely unattractive, then nope. Even a bit below average girls can still be pretty. They can still have that default attractiveness necessary. At that point, personality plays a role in enhancing that attractiveness--less for men than women, but it still does, I think. I once left a ridiculously attractive chick for an average looking girl, just because I had more fun with her and she made me smile and laugh.
If I was looking for marriage, a long-term deal, then I might focus almost purely on personality melding. But, I will never be.
Average looks+good personality >> Good looks+poor personality. Same as choosing a flame or a stone. A flame is more appealing but a stone is obviously a better choice. Looks do matter, but its garbage if the person doesn't have a decent personality. Looks are important too. Its like voting for the most appealing candidate, all looks good on paper but what about it when it comes to the test? After all the initial attraction and infatuation is lost, the only thing that gives the relationship any mileage is the personality of the people involved. I can bet people who say good looks over personality are just asking to be butthurt.
How strictly are we talking here? Is she a dog with the personality of an angel? I mean, personality compensates for a great deal but if she's repulsive or doesn't attract me physically in any way then, no, I couldn't date her. On the other hand -- and this is something happening to me currently -- there is a girl I'm trying to talk to with the personality of an eggplant but the body of a goddess. I wouldn't date her either. In fact, with the girl with a great personality I'd gladly be friends with but the hot girl with the bad personality I'd rather avoid or hit and quit at most; and I hate hook ups so she needs to be extremely attractive in my eyes for me to even be interested in that.
Eh, no, never. Anyone who says that looks don't matter AT ALL is a big fat liar. Of course, personality is more important, but looks are fairly important too. They're not irrelevant. I wanna be with someone I'm super attracted to, like, I can't keep my hands off them.
I voted no, because I wouldn't date someone I was physically repulsed by, but often times I meet someone "unattractive" but as I get to know their personality, I grow more attracted to them. I'm that case I would totally date them.
Someone's personality can turn me on. So I think personality is more important. I do not want someone super ugly ^^ But a great personality can make a bad looking person look really good. Like a very bad personality can make a good looking person look worse.
Honestly, personality is important - I wouldn't date someone who's personality I found unattractive either, even if they were the most attractive physically. But I think finding someone physically attractive is important, if I'm dating someone I want to want to sleep with them, and personality alone would not make me want them.