I've never had good luck in dating. The good guys never liked me (always seemed to be a lack of physical attraction on their part) and the bad boys always were attracted to me, but treated me like shit and I got out of it after a month or two. The good guys that were crazy about me, I was never physically attracted to. One Big Mess. I'm really reserved until I get to know you. I prefer the man to lead (which is hard to find nowadays). I don't have to be texting you all the time or up your butt 24/7 and that doesn't bode well in a clingy, insecure society. Yet, if I find someone I like, I always get anxious, but it's usually because the guy acts sketchy and ghosts or turns out being crazy. I just feel like if I ever met someone who was attracted to me mentally and physically, was pretty sane, and wanted to be in a relationship that developed slowly, I might pass the fuck out. Anyone else? Any advice for an INTJ that's single? Does it get better with age?
Most Helpful Guy
It doesn't get better with age. I'll likely never marry or have a true connection with someone, and there's evidence of this predisposition on my father's side of the family.
You either embrace or adapt. Everyone has some issue to deal with, and when you sign that unwritten contract in dating, you are making a promise to be the best you can be, and compromise to fill the gaps. Yes, that means doing something that makes you uncomfortable because the challenge makes you a better person.
100% of my success in dating happened because I behaved differently. A textbook INTJ would never do what I did. Your belief that guys should approach is why I'd be fucked if I didn't change. I adapted and saw success. Jump into the cold water. Sprint up the hill. Make yourself sweat for an hour or two.
Challenge yourself if you want a better outcome. Using your personality profile as an excuse won't get you anywhere.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm an entj. I want a nerdy, ambitious and laid back guy who I'm attracted to. I fail at romatic relationships. But as I've gotten older, my dating pool has widen significantly. So it's a lot easier to meet guys and girls similar to me now that im in uni.0