Me and my man have been dating for 2 months. We just made it official last week. Last night we had sex for the first time. Tonight he wants to have sex again, but I'm leaving town early tomorrow for a job, and I wanted to focus on that and get some sleep. I'll be gone for 5 days.
Is it wrong to deny my boyfriend sex before I leave town? Or should he understand my reason for not wanting to?
Most Helpful Guy
You are wrong.
He probably understands your reason, but that shouldn't have stopped him. You're still wrong. Very wrong.
You are forgetting that he is going to be without anyone to be intimate with because YOU have to be away. It's not his fault.
But more importantly than that, not having a ton of sex before a business trip is one of the dumbest things any woman can do for their relationship. Just because he promised you that he won't be sleeping with somebody else doesn't mean his biological urges will simply disappear. Leaving him high alone like this is just flirting with disaster. Sure, he'll try to do his best, and he'll probably keep it in his pants this time, but over time, eventually a perfect combo of temptation is going to fall on his lap.
And the thing is, you didn't need to make things harder for him. Just fuck him before you take your trips, fuck him well, and then things will be easier for him, and it'll be easier for you.1
Most Helpful Girl
i personally always want to give my guy a good romp before he goes away on business. So he can have a good memory while we're apart. Hopefully your guy understands it's not a punishment as "deny" often represents but rather you just setting your priorities. if he is bumbed out, you can always promise to make it up to him upon your return with something special.3