A lot of guys need to take better dating site pics. So many are more unflattering, feature him scowling, too dark, etc. Many use webcam, which takes pics that make people look like anti social aliens...
I met a guy from online once who was pretty dorky, short, slightly overweight, and fairly average in the face who told me when he spiced up his profile pics, he was lining up a few dates a week vs not having any when using a generic selfie.
You can't compare a dating website with the real world. Obviously on a dating site you only have so much to work with in terms of determining attraction and people could look worse on photos than they do in person too.
The argument that guys are the problem here doesn't really hold water. In any marketplace, there is no objective reality, only what the market will bear. If 'average' were a dealbreaker in market behavior, no one would buy Toyota Camrys. As it is, they're the best-selling cars, and the reason is that most people are average buyers. While they may *prefer* to have a BMW, they know that their resources do not afford such a choice.
In the dating market, most women are average buyers, so they should eventually understand their position and make a rational choice. This isn't what's happening, though. Women are essentially saying that if they don't have the market power to buy a luxury brand, they will do without a car. That's not a rational choice, given the detriment caused by abstention from participating in the market.
This is increasingly the case in the most developed nations. Go investigate what's happening in the dating world in Japan. Relatively few young people are pursuing relationships and having sex. It's a totally irrational situation, given our biological drive to mate.
Well, I will say that there are a lot of guys out there who seem to be extraordinarily clueless with women, like so clueless they just lack basic common sense.
I see guys doing things all the time doing things that are meant to impress other guys more than girls. Like guys with these crazy Al Qaeda beards. No girl is attracted to a fat hipster with poorly groomed facial hair. These guys have to follow the trend, even though the trend gets them even further away from catching a girl's interest.
Same with the way guys dress. Girls pay tons of attention to a guy's clothes. Dressing well is a great way to catch a girl's eye even if you're not naturally attractive. Yet I see guys walking around my college campus wearing food-stained t-shirts with snarky sayings, crack-baring shorts, and flip flops. What girl is going to be attracted to that?
So yeah, too many guys are their own worst enemies when it comes to this stuff. That said, women can be pretty damn picky. But one must remember that when you aren't meeting people in person you're only giving them an image of yourself to hook them. Girls are going to get pretty dismissive when all they've got to go on is a tiny pic of some guy's fat, bearded face.
Don't consider yourself "average". If you think you're average, the first issue you need to deal with is your lack of (and I use this term carefully because it's misused most of the time) self-esteem.
The way I've always looked at making my profile on a dating site is more like a way to take stock in who I am first. If you really want to make a good profile you need to be honest with yourself and also a bit vulnerable. From my experience, a good mixture of those two things is what people tend to appreciate. It also makes it stand out a lot more than other profiles.
You are unique. Figure out what makes you different and show it!
Multiple reasons. -Women's main priority is now how you look so when that' all they have to go by they are moke picky. -Unlike women, most guys suck at picking pictues and looking their best in them. -Lots of good looking guys won't need online dating.