We've been together 3 months. Anyway, he's never asked for them and my previous boyfriend was a maniac about it. Anyway our convo
Him: I'm sure you look good in your undies.
Me: I don't know... *sent PIC*
Him: I didn't ask for them babe
Me: I know just wanted to know what you thought ;-) *sent comparison PIC*
Him: Pls stop sending me nudes.. Where's this coming from?
Me: I thought you were shy to ask soo you don't like :-(?
Him: You don't need to send me pics I know perfectly well your beautiful
Me: You don't need visual reminders?
Him: Nah I'm fine thanks.
Me: Why are you rejecting it? Kinda hurts
Him: although I appreciate that u trust me with your pics... I could be an ass and show others... You can never trust someone as much as yourself.
Me: So no pics in the future?
Him: I wouldn't recommend
Me: your loss it does seem like your politely rejecting it because you don't want it smh.
I did nice poses just for him and I put effort to wear nice underwear and he didn't want them. I wanna show him his rude he was? Am I being unreasonable?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not a fan of receiving nudes either. It's an unwanted liability. If I had a daughter I'd tell her not to send nudes so I'm not going to be a hypocrite and tell a girl I'm dating to send them to me. The second you've got nudes online you jeopardize your chances of having a successful career in numerous professions. I've got no negative opinions of women who send nudes but I don't think it's a smart decision. Not to meantion almost every girl I've met looks either significantly better or significantly worse in person. I had an ex who took terrible photos and looked amazing in person. I used to delete her pics as soon as she sent them because they made her look worse than my own memory. Lastly my phone isn't the safest place in the world. All it takes is a friend of mine to get into my phone and boom your nudes can be front page of my fraternities group chat and off onto the Internet for every guy to get off to. I don't like the idea of that. I've never asked for a girl to send me nudes but I've never stopped a girl from doing it either. So I can't say exactly why he asked you not to but there are plenty of reasons why.3
Most Helpful Girl
He wasn't being rude at all. Some people just don't like the idea of nudes, or sexy pics in general. He politely pointed out that it's not quite his cup of tea and that you should be more careful with pictures like that. I understand that it feels bad that you didn't get the reaction you wanted, but he was in no way being rude, and honestly you're being a bit childish for wanting to "hurt" him just because he politely told you that he's not into it. You can't force him to like something he doesn't like. Don't take it so personally.6