I'm supposed to have a date with this guy either tonight or tomorrow night ...he was in and out of the city till this morning so he said that he would msg me to figure out which day or whatever...its Wednesday afternoon and I haven't heard anything from him yet (we made this plan on Sunday)..I can't do anything tonight so I'm hoping he at least messages me sometime today about meeting up. Question is though, if I don't hear from him do I message him to find out if we're still on for tomorrow? I've been looking forward to this date but I really dun wanna look desperate. Thoughts?
We planned a date, but I haven't heard from him yet?
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I think you should message him. "Not messaging a guy, because I wanted him to message me first," sounds like something that I would have done in high school. You both are aware that you like each other, and all you want to know is whether or not the plans are still on. That does not seem desperate to me at all. Yes, if he really wants to hang out with you tomorrow he would message you, but you really want to hang out with him too, and someone has to message somebody, so why can't that person be you?
It only starts looking desperate if you message him about 3 times and he never gets back to you as you continue to message him even more. But right now, being up front and asking him a mere question of seeing each other tomorrow is no way, shape, or for considered desperate.
Don't message him at all. If this guy really wants to go out with you, he would more than likely message you first. If you act like you don't care (and he does really want to go out with you) than he will put forth the effort for you. Remember, people want what they can't have and if you make yourself too availble, than you might lose him. Just for clarification, who asked out who first?