Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? I feel like if I spend more than 3 days in a row with my girlfriend I start to get antsy and wanna just be alone, but she always wants to see me, why doesn't she feel
this way. How much space should be normal for a 4 month old relationship, and she's 29 and seems clingy for that age or am i wrong?
Most Helpful Girl
I get the same way. I'm an introvert so I value my alone time.
If both people have their own lives going on and places to be, then that will make spending time with the other person much more appreciated than spending 24/7 with each other. A few times a week sounds normal.0
Most Helpful Guy
Space was always important to me and I've felt that many times. You pretty much lose it outright though, once you live together, get married, etc.
Some of the desire for space can go away if you start developing a very open line of communication, sharing your deepest secrets, connecting on a level where you two can start to anticipate each other's needs and desires without speaking a word.
A lot of time that desire to be alone is kind of an escape, like "she couldn't possibly understand my need to do this", and that temptation to escape diminishes the more you grow her understanding by communicating very openly with her.
That said, us guys always need some space now and then.1