Okay, little bit to know about me: I can't socialize. I'm terrible at making friends. But I've had way too many bad experiences from going online, so how am I supposed to meet anyone? I recently moved to a new area and have no friends near me. I go to college but, again, I don't know how to be social. I don't really have any hobbies (except reading, but that's kind of a hard way to make friends)... How do I date if I can't even talk to people?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings - and this is partially due to my psych degree and partially due to experience, as I was never an outgoing person - but you have to start socializing FIRST. You have to improve this element of life before you start the toughest and most complex of all interpersonal human relationships (i. e., the romantic type).
There's not a "right" way to do it, either. You just have to put yourself out there and try to make a few friends. I would suggest getting involved in some sort of activity at college that you enjoy; it's a great way of meeting like-minded people that, who knows, might have the same issues you do. And FAR better than crazy, hectic parties.
Your last question is the kicker: You CAN'T date if you can't even talk to people. It just won't work. You have to start the talking first and I guarantee it'll lead you where you want to go, maybe without you even realizing it. At the very least, if you can start making a few friends here and there, there will come a time when this question you just asked will seem silly to you. Because even if it doesn't come entirely naturally, it'll still come. You just have to work at it a little. :)2
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Most Helpful Girl
i have the same problem! however, you can try new things and maybe you'll find new hobbies. you can try to talk to people who goes to your college and start a simple conversation with them ( just smile and be friendly) and be confident ( i know this can be hard but just imagine your acting or something) and im sure everything will go well! good luck0