A lot of people say they wouldn't because it's baggage, it's drama, or the person has already been through having a kid so it's not exciting. Many people have children now though, so is deciding not to give someone a chance because of that worth it?
Most Helpful Guy
At my age, I wouldn't be able to date someone with a child. When getting into a serious relationship with a girl who has a kid, you will have to take the father-role over pretty quickly. While I wouldn't have much of a problem with this, it takes a lot more time and involvement than a relationship without a kid.
Furthermore, I would love to have kids of my own one day, and 'taking over" someone else's kid has me feeling weird.
If I was older (and not in university anymore), I would certainly consider it much more than now. At this point in time, it is not something I'd want to do.5
Most Helpful Girl
Why would I want to complicate my life by dating someone that has made some pretty big mistakes in their life?
I don't want to have to be involved with children and especially not with a person who seems to think it's some sort of crime not to find them datable.
I don't have children, I don't want children, so it would make zero sense for me to get into a relationship with a single parent. But even if I did want children, I'm not obligated to give anyone a chance just because they think they're worth it. Such an entitled attitude to have, which actually is quite common among single parents, especially girls.
"My children are not a mistake, I wouldn't trade them for the world!!1!"
That may be so, however I highly doubt when you were growing up, you dreamed of a life of single parenthood. When people picture their ideal lives, very few are excited at the idea of raising a child alone. So while you don't specifically consider your children to be mistakes, mistakes were definitely made.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it's the upsetting truth.3
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