I'm joking. It totally depends where you live, I guess. Western Muslims are probably a lot less concerned than Muslims in stricter countries. I'm not a Muslim myself but I notice a lot more 'haram' is socially acceptable to Muslims in America than, say, Muslims in the UAE.
I'm not sure what the Qu'ran says about it - if it's scripture then a lot of Muslim men may not look past it. If it is not in the Qu'ran I'd imagine it would be a lot more accepted.
Define Muslim. I'm born Muslim from 2 Muslim parents but, I'm currently an Atheist. And yes, a girl's hymen is not that important to me. I'm not a virgin either, I would be a hypocrite if I only wanted a virgin.