Pretty self explanatory question! What's the best way to cut the games, do you call them out right then and there or do you just cut the attention till they realize you're not doing their games and when they come back you let them know you're not interested in games?
Most Helpful Girl
Both works but it depends on you and what type of guy you are. If you are straight forward then cut the crap and tell her straight up that you like her but you're not into the games she is playing. If you feel like it would be better to cut the attention in fear of creating any drama then do so. I hope you are certain that she is playing games though.0
Most Helpful Guy
Just let her play and leave when you're ready. Girls who play games always overestimate how good they are at it. Mostly because most guys who understand that games are being played just don't bother with playing and the guys who do play end up losing. So on to the tips:
1. Make sure she's actually playing games. Game playing and general anxiety are usually intertwined. She may even be playing game because of her anxiety. She may not even know that's what she's doing.
2. Don't waste anyone's time. If you like her then play. Eventually she'll get tired. But if you're not really that into her then just leave. She's gonna know your only kinda into her and the games won't ever stop.
3. Don't lose. How do you lose? By changing who you are as a human being. If you call her out on it it's the equivalent of her breaking your spine. It's almost like the classic douchebag game of "you mad bro?". If you just let her get away with everything you just show you don't have a spine at all. It's the balance between recognizing what's a game and handling it without compromising yourself.
4. Lastly you've got to win. A lot of people get this part wrong because they think winning is about having the upper hand or being the person that's wanted instead of the person doing the wanting. Or being the smartest. Or worse it just becomes a game of who's gonna hurt who first. To win the game you've got to understand your "opponent" and yourself. Your opponent isn't the girl it's all her negative ideals as well as yours. The goal is to get her on your side against those ideals. How you go about doing that is on you. I tend to go about voicing things that bother me in a form of a question. Not for the purpose of changing her but just to understand why she's doing what she's doing. I like to think about it as a litmus test. If her games are too stressful for you then you shouldn't be together because it probably won't get easier for a while.0
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