Basically, as a black man, I know they're the only women that could find me attractive. Now, some background as to how I wound up here. See, for the past, let's see, I'm about to be 18, so, 12 years of my life, I've lived in shitty ghettos. So, most of the black girls I've actually seen have been loud, obnoxious, ignorant, or obese, very, very, obese. Now, before you jump on me and say not all black women are like that, no shit, I know that, my family isn't like that, I've seen some very attractive black girls, these are just the girls I've always lived around and I'm just nothing like them, hell, I barely even look black. Second, I'm starting to come to the realization that my obsession with getting a white girl to like me most likely stems from me having never gotten over the first real, meaningful rejection I ever received from a friend of mine. I realized that when I not only compared every girl after her to her, whether consciously or unconsciously, but I'd also go for girls that look somewhat like her, or try and top it with better looking girls. And I didn't give a shit about any of those girls. I feel that a part of it has been trying to escape my own feelings of inferiority, especially stemming from my race, hence why I've mostly gone after white girls, after all, if the only rejection I've cared about was from a white girl, I need to prove her wrong. And I need to prove all the others to reject me afterwards wrong. And I need to prove my superiority to them. Plus, because of my high school, most, if not virtually all of the girls I do know are white or Asian, which has also managed to destroy both my sanity and self esteem. So, yeah, how do I become attracted to them? It's just, even discounting that most are, like, overweight, I generally don't find the ones with broad noses very attractive, though, neither does my father, so...
Most Helpful Girl
1. Not only black women can find you attractive. So get that out of your head. There are white, Asian, and many other women of races that could and do find black men as equally attractive as a white or any other kind of race man.
2. Many black women are gorgeous looking! Like seriously! That skin!!
3. Be you! It may sound cliche but it's the best weapon you have. Even if you are extremely attractive ( like Will Smith for me) if you don't have the brains and the character to go with it, you won't get any woman.
4. Nevertheless, though you don't have to force yourself to like a specific kind or race of women.
Hope I helped :)0
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly bro, use some paragraphs. reading this really is difficult.
Anyway, you shouldn't focus on a particular ethnicity of women, but a particular personality you look for. There are great women out there and why would you care what ethnicity they have if you find them attractive nonetheless?0
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