I feel like a relationship would be bad idea if she still found you unattractive. Someone who can overlook any physical flaw (aka someone who only cares about personality) is one thing, but it is a problem if the person does care about looks yet imagines your personality will make up for it.
Here's why: -- As a person with a partner who doesn't find you attractive, you might start feeling like you need to compensate. Rather, you may be thinking that you aren't good enough.
-- Many people in this situation would be most likely paranoid that the SO would be going for someone else as well... Like being worried that she seeks fulfillment for your own flaws.
-- It could lead to a person feel like they are being settled upon. I imagine that is kind of an awful feeling.
If someone initially tells me I'm not their type and not attractive to them then they are not the kind of person I want to be with. I would immediately fall under the impression that they are relying on me as either a last resort or if they like my personality alone, which is nice and all, but if I felt physically unattractive to my partner that would detrimentally damage our intimate relationship.
If they don't see my value or see me as physically attractive from the very beginning then they need to accept that this completely removes the possibility of us ever being together.
I would think something's going on, I'll probably think she's trying to trick me, but that can happen, cause it has happened to me, where I didn't find a girl attractive but I started spending time with her and I ended up falling for her. If I were you I wouldn't jump into the relationship straight away, I'd wait and spend time with him to see if he really wants you, just in case.
That can certainly happen. Sometimes people don't realize how much they like you until they get to know you. I know that girls hate this, though, because y'all always want to feel like your guy is more attracted to you than you are to him. Y'all don't like feeling like your guy has the upper hand, so to speak.
I would possibly tell them to beat it. If they aren't at least somewhat attracted it won't work out. But that's just coming from about 90 years combined of relationships that I've seen at the end of those 50/20/10 years and it's not pretty - no pun intended. They both have resented eachother for not being what they want or caring for them how they want.
i would def not give that person a chance. they are clearly flaky. don't know what they want and change their mind easy. that is a person who probably would cheat in near future.. trust me i met a lot of guys. it's why i am not dating anymore. sick of the crap they bring into my life lol not worth it
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