He was honest in telling me that this other girl sent him a photo of her ass. She was "showing him her new tattoo". His words back to her were 'you shouldn't do that because my girlfriend would lynch me for this' or words to that effect anyway.
He was completely honest and upfront and brought this up to me, so I appreciated that he did. But I still wondered, how on earth did they get onto that conversation?
Then, a few months later a girl he used to work with was texting him to try and hook up with him after splitting with her ex. He obviously said no, but again, I wondered... how did they get onto that subject?
he's always secretive with his phone when he's around me, and it makes me suspicious. He doesn't want me touching it and always goes 'hey' if I do. He takes it everywhere with him, toilet and all.
I guess these small things grind my gears. But when I check my Facebook and still see he's been online at like, 3am after saying goodnight, I begin to wonder a little.
If he is indeed being honest with you and bringing this stuff to you. It would seem to me that you have little to worry about. It just means thirsty bitches want your man and he is not interested in them. Also, not wanting someone to go through your phone is not suspicious behaviour, i feel demanding the right to go through some one elses phone is an invasion of privacy.
If it was just one ass pic, it could've been a misunderstanding. It would be more important how he reacted upon receiving it, like if he jacked off to it, or asked her to send more. Which it doesn't sound like he did.
However, it doesn't bode well into making his case look any better that he's now dealing with a girl who conveniently wanted to hook up with him post-breakup (I've yet to hear of anyone doing that), then hiding his phone to add to the suspicion.
It might be time for an ultimatum or sound clear boundaries to be set. That way, if he breaks them when you're both aware of the rules, it'll be easier to know how to react on your part. Meaning you saying you're hurt by all these things that happened and would like if he stopped exchanging/receiving photos of any sort from random girls. Regardless of how many tattoos they got or where they were placed.
I mean if he lead them in the conversation to get ass pictures and what not, why would he come out of no-where to tell you and be honest with you? Maybe he's just the type of guy that many girls like and feel comfortable with so they show their true nature.
Reasonable suspicion; nothing you can really do about it unless you intend on
- Catching him in the act (s) - Confronting him about it - Offering more than these other potential competition do; They are all appealing to him on a sexual playing field (if he is appealed to begin with), if you are not doing the same, then you lose.
Personally, I feel like if he had anything to hide, he wouldn't be blatantly showing you.
There's thirsty girls out there who will go after guys without being provoked, and given that he's been honest I personally have no reason to believe that he was the instigator. Chances are these women were the ones initiating the inappropriate conversation and initiating the subject of cheating.
It is some what suspicious because maybe he's telling you because if you found out you'd confront the girl too and maybe he just doesn't want you to talk with her etc. Because you may find out other information
Well, think of it this way. My boyfriend shows me his phone conversations, I even used his phone - so he's not hiding anything from me. And if he gets emails from his ex, he tells me. He would give me his passcode and Id play on his phone and see what he does, so if your boyfriend is taking his phone everywhere with him, and hiding it from you, it smells a little fishy - he sounds like he's hiding something.
If it really bothers you so much, you should ask him whats going on, because you'll just keep wondering "is he cheating on me?" ... you're both adults, talk to him and see what he really does.
Everything sounded fine until you mentioned that he was secretive of his phone and takes it with him even to the bathroom. Usually that is suspicious behavior. To give him the benefit of the doubt, the girls may have just messaged him out of nowhere or the girl with the tattoo could've said "Hey, do you want to see my tattoo?" without telling him where it was located. This may or may not be the case, but I figured I'd play devil's advocate just to show both sides. I think you should discuss it with him for sure, and bring up that being secretive about his phone raises suspicion.