The girl is a japanese woman. I belive she sends me a lot of signals but i'm not 100% sure so i asked her out. She seemed flatterd and was smiling but said maybe. What does it mean? What should i do next?
Girls, Today I asked a girl out and she said maybe but according to her bodylanguage she was happy. What should I do next?
What Girls Said 1
You should keep on flirting with her.0
What Guys Said 2
"Maybe" almost always means "no" in Japan (coming from someone having lived here for almost 18 years) and with a Japanese wife.
Japanese girls are super polite and the social etiquette is always about trying not to shame the other person (so she'll tend to be very careful not to hurt your feelings, though she might accidentally string you along).
This tends to confuse a lot of foreign guys in Japan where they try to hit on a girl, she smiles and says she'll think about it, and then they think they scored, only to find they were totally wrong.
Another thing is that if your friend is really Japanese, asking on a date is kind of professing your love already. It's a more serious affair to ask a Japanese woman on a date. Already it's somewhat koibito (lover) status. Typical way of courtship in Japan (unless you're at a night club with loose women) is become friends for a good long time, then finally start dating.
You have to be pretty patient usually, as just starting a date already might mean you two are an item. You don't date to find out who you like, you do that through friendship. Instead you date because you like each other so much (mutually) that you're ready to elevate the status.
This doesn't always apply, but it's some things to note about Japan in general.
Also, that doesn't mean it's hopeless with this girl, but you might need to be more patient. You can kind of spend time with her, ask her to places, without actually turning it into a date, emphasizing more friendship than like a romantic dinner.0
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