I've known this guy for a month. In the beginning he would message me often and after the first two times we met up we didn't talk for about a week. The 2nd date wasn't great (we went to the movies). After the week with no contact he invited me to his house and we had a great time (so I thought). He cooked me dinner and dessert. We just sat on his couch watching TV, there was a little touching going on.
When I got home I texted him, both agreed we had a good time and then we barely talked for the rest of the week. Until Thursday I texted to check in with him and on Friday I did the same. He seemed his usual self and he invited me over again. This time around there was lots of flirting, play fighting, touching and we made out. I texted him to tell him I had got home safely and the next day he sent me a picture of the dessert he had made.
Other than that we haven't spoken in three days. Its making me a little paranoid, it's like each time we become more intimate he backs away. Or maybe it's just me?
Background info: we met on tinder. On the first date we went bowling, to an arcade and for drinks. Second date was the movies and the last two times I went to his house. One of the occasions he cooked dinner for me and made dessert. He has initiated most of the contact over the last months, I've reached out once or twice. I'm yet to invite him out on a date.
It sounds to me like this guy is a little bit awkward/inexperienced at the dating game. You never take a girl out for movies during the early dating process, horrible, horrible idea.
I think he's just not very good at this sort of thing. He might not like you so much, it's possible, but only way to find out for sure is maybe make a move, invite him over to your house.
If he's all goofy and awkward, you could help him a bit by snuggling up close to him (don't have to like give him a lap-dance, just whatever you're comfortable with, like just leaning on him a little bit).
I think you're over analyzing. You've only hung out a few times so he's keeping his distance for now. Just keep hanging out with him when it works for both of you and let things develop as they will (or will not). You're not emotionally invested at this point so try not to make such a big deal out of it.
do you guys call eachother? if he's like me he hates texting and is texting as little as possible to not seem needy or desperate. i prefer to make a phone call between date and a few texts not much though. this sounds like a really similar situation to what i am in. So my opinion is he likes you a lot or he would stop asking u to do stuff.
my question for you is, are you annoyed he doesn't stay in contact more? because im wondering if the girl im dating is wondering the same things as u
It seems to me that this "On again, Off again" dating with no real Mating, is Going to Go in a Full Circle Problem Pattern Direction And... It's like each time we become more intimate he backs away. He probably is getting Cold Duck feet because although he Appears here, dear, to really be Into you, he is Scared of Going into a Real Relationship and this is Why this Guy... Is sporadic like this. Go slowwith his flow. He is Making all the Attempts on his own end, and with Nursing and Nurturing something specuial tha tyou both may have found because of Tinder... Treat i tTenderly for now anyways. Of course, it doesn't hurt to Extend an Invite on your own to yopur own.. Home. It just Might Cook up things a bit Faster. Good luck. xx
He could be thinking the same about you. Judging by his responses, it sounds like he wants to talk to you, but for whatever reason is too timid or something to initiate the text. He might feel like he's sounding clingy or annoying. I recommend asking him next time you see him.
Don't over think it. You barely know him so don't worry just keep dating other guys in the meantime. And if he invites you to him place next time say that you want to go out somewhere and it doesn't have to be expensive.
Test to see if he initiates text or calls for a week. If he goes longer than 2 weeks I'd delete his #
Im in a similar situation, but we have been just hooking up now and its been a year. My best advice would be to talk about what you want from this relationship.. I never did that and I'm in the most confusing mess now
In my opinion, the guy seems interested and doing things the right way. You need to calm down and give the guy some space. I don't personally think he withdraws, but that you appear to need constant attention and I am not saying that there's anything wrong with that, but just that it could spoil a good thing and actually make him back off before he gets to know you properly and fall for you deeply. You need to let him know you are interested, at the same time give him his space. You've been on 4 dates now all initiated by him, so there is nothing wrong with you asking him if he'll love to have dinner at yours and treat him to your culinary expertise is there now? You'd better be a good cook or just order something in. Good luck with it.
He's probably just not trying to be eager. If you get a genuine vibe from him, then that's what should matter. You should both initiate equally. Trust me I've been through shit where we both tried to be coy. Ended up being such a waste.