I have been single all my life, but ironically, I am often told that I am pretty. It's frustrating, the people I want to date never show me any interest and the people I am less than interested in (very weird people or old creepy men). My body language? It's often closed, crossed arms or legs. Whenever I go to college, I always look down or avoid any eye contact with guys (basically pretend they're invisible, because they never say hello to me) . Whenever I sit in class, I prepare my notes, don't smile or talk to anyone or even look up for a matter. I just get up and go. I wear natural makeup to class and I dress neatly with cute, modest clothing.
The reason why I act like this is because every time in my whole life I have tried befriending or tried asking my crushes out, I always get rejected. What is the use in trying?
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You have painted your solution in the problem. If your body language is closed off then you can appear to be unapproachable. The "very weird or creepy old men" show interest because in their mind you will likely not attract attractive people. Which means less competition and a possible open door for them. Those people have less confidence and seek the path of least resistance. I've known a few people like that in the past and I feel for them and for people like you. Why? Because the answer is so simple, yet often difficult at the same time. The point is, attractive people attract other attractive people. Everyone seeks someone they feel is on their attraction level or better. You say you are pretty. Okay that's a start. What you need is to increase your presence, and not for the sake of attracting a date. Increase your social circle. If you are more introspective, this is still possible. It just means you enjoy smaller, more intimate and low key social circles. Smile more, initiate conversations and open up your body language a bit. But here's the key: Keep firmly in your mind that you are not looking for a date, but looking to enjoy the company and social support of like minded people in the form of establishing friendships. The less focus you put on finding a guy, the more guys will be attracted to you (I promise this!) This is the time in your life where you will be establishing connections with people that will have a long term role in your life. They will be your support and outlet and I can't tell you how many guys are drawn to women like that. It will be difficult at first, but one thing I have found is that the mind leads the body and the body leads the mind (i. e. fake it until you make it). Hope this was helpful to you and I will cheer you on! =)1