I didn't really realise how bad (or good? or whatever?) this was until recently, but I think a lot more like a guy than I do like a girl. I hate drama and really couldn't care less about chipped nail polish or shopping. I don't think acting passive aggressive or catty (ratchet is a more commonly used term) is amusing, and I tend to confront things rather than gossip. I like music like rap and classic rock, and my friends have lately been saying things like "you are honestly more of a guy than a girl". I always feel more comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans than leggings. I could go on, because there are about a million things, but I'll stop there. I think it comes from how I grew up, having only friends who are guys until this year, when I made a few "girlfriends", but I can't really connect with them super well and I can hardly ever understand where theyre coming from.
I got to thinking about this after a friend of mine said something along the lines of "Every guy needs a girl like you" and I got kind of happy right, but then he continued with "to give them advice about girls they like."
Is thinking and talking (and sometimes acting) like I do a bad thing? And will it effect guys wanting to date me?
You are not acting like a guy. You are acting like yourself. That's what any guy interested in you will tell himself. I think the way you act couldmactually help you. Not that many people like being caught in the middle of a drama.
It's funny how disconnected you are from other girls. I guess you can understand how clueless we can be sometimes about your gender. Things seems so much simpler for us guys.
I don't think the guy was being mean when he told you that. He was actually right. You could be a good translator since you know both worlds... I think not only would you make a great friend, but you would also be a catch.
If this is true, it won't be long before you've got lines of men all the way around the block wanting a chance with a girl like you.
I mean, a handful of boys have the woman code totally cracked, including the girly girl code. But, that's only a handful. Maybe one or two percent.
The other 98 or 99 percent? Yeah, they'd very much like a girl they can actually understand, and connect with, and who doesn't confuse the living shit out of them all the time. They'd very much want that.
The demand for girls like you greatly exceeds the supply. Trust me on this one.
Those aren't feminine traits. Just most girls do them. They're asshole traits. Spawned from vanity and shallowness and lack of humility in anything. We'll done for being laid back and sane. Downstairs make you less of a girl. You need to be an arsehole to be female? I don't think so
I've never liked any of the typical girly-girl things and I found a guy perfectly fine. You're young, in middle school/high school it might be a bit harder to find someone who appreciates you for who you are, but in the long run it's better to be who you are. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with who you are. You'd be just as datable as the next girl (if not more so).
I know there's a lot of guys who like girls that are lower maintenance more than girls that are girly girls. You'll be fine! There will be a lot of guys that will appreciate a girl who doesn't always have to have her nails done and dress up (take forever to get ready in the morning) and a lot of guys who prefer more natural looks.
Also, your taste in music is genderless. Music doesn't have a gender. Both sexes can listen to any type of music and shouldn't be considered less of a guy/girl because of their choice.
First off, gender is a socially constructed term. Certain behaviours, personality traits, etc are deemed masculine or feminine and we are socialized to behave accordingly while growing up. But you are who you are, and maybe you don't fit the mould for what society deems feminine. There's also this idea that there is a spectrum of gender and men and women fall different on it. I think everyone, to an extent, as male and female "energy" and one might overpower the other. I hated fashion and make up growing up but have come to like it, and that was my choice. You're very very young too so give yourself time to figure out who you are and what you're all about
I'm actually a lot similar to you. I feel like I have a guy's dirty sense of humor. And I'm pretty chill and I like hanging out with guys because girls are so dramatic and annoying. I do like leggings though.
Do your own thing and that'll attract a keeper. If you have to fake it then it's not worth it and it won't make you happy in the end. I'm quite the tom boy too (kids have even mistook me for a guy) and I've ended up dating my best friend (who's a guy), and we've been together almost exactly a year now. So don't worry about it. The person who like you for being you will come along
I was that way in college and it was hard for me to get a date. I think men are threatened or just not sexually interested in me because they see me as an equal (or even a competitor at work) or just because I'm smart and confident. They want to feel stronger and smarter than the girl they're with.
I don't think you should change yourself, I just think it's harder to find a man who is comfortable with a woman like that.
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