Is it really that big of a deal.
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interesting.. i honestly here 'I'm ibdeoendenty' much more from men than from women. and personally i think its ridiculous. first of all human beings are not indepedent. we all exist and subsist and thrive because we have tightly woven droendernce on our species. even the most solitary person is deferent on her/ his fellow human for survive. the independent wo / man --thats an illusion. the rugged individual a myth conceived and popularized during the cold war... justify rationalize and promote anti communism, world domination, and the united states as impervious and all powerful.
second whatever you are, your personality, it will come across from your actions. i don't trust people who announce what they are. its defensive and separate and suspicious.
on the other hand in terms of women stating independence , it could be a practical move , as apposed to deceive or boast but rather to express that they are not intending to be in a relationship where there is an expectation of submissiveness from them. or domination of them. guys don't really need to make such pronouncement or imply this in any way, bc women don't expect it of them often. if they do its as their personal preference, not as their role as men.
a lot of guys live in a 1950s fantasy world where they expect their wife or girlfriend to be their child in all intents and purposes. not their 'partner/ so saying I'm 'indecent' might be a disclaimer' I'm nobodies bitch'. which seems reasonable enough.
You yourself, not being a Woman dating men- who sometimes can not distinguish between a girlfriend and a daughter or a maid or a rescued street urchin- may have difficulty understanding that a lot of men start off with grave misapprehensions about what it does vs what they think it should mean to be a woman vs being with a woman, vs the actual woman they are interested in... And why therefore it can be essential to make clear things from the beginning before things develop any further.
Thats my view as to why -if this is true- Women might often feel the need to point out they are independent. Though no hum, an truly is there is a sort of general assumption given to the word which basically means being your own person. It is taken for granted that men are fully formed individuals as apposed to women who are by some seen as never fully formed, always needing men to complete them. In many cases Women may need to remind the men in their lives they are their own person.0
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Because they are projecting their desires in a potential mate onto men, not understanding that men mostly just don't want a leech.0