I dont understand why this particular 1 time trait is so important. So many women say "Well if he won't ask me out I'm not interested", like are they really that naive? I thought about how I am an attractive guy, nice, funny, smart, with a good job, good degree, and loyal nature. You would think girls would love me right? Well the weird thing is that they only love me when I love them first. I can't tell you how many times I've met a girl who was completely indifferent about me one minute, and then I ask her to go out to coffee and she is beyond obsessed with me, and devastated if I break off the relationship. Did they seriously not realize how I would be a great match for her until after I asked her out? As I said, they didn't care about me at all UNTIL I asked them out, at which point they were crazy about me. Why did asking them out have to be the catalyst, why couldnt they be obsessed with me before I ask them out? And I dont know, maybe ask me out? Whats more is that other girls I know sell themselves WAAAAY short by dating the first not bad guy to ask them out. They could get a smart, handsome, awesome guy if they maybe showed a bit of interest or took initiative, but instead they go out with an average looking, not particularly personable, bland guy that she is way better then. Whats the deal? If there is a great, smart, handsome, funny guy in front of her why does that awesome guy ALSO have to ask her out in order for her to date him? If he never asks her out, chances are she will never date him, and at that point she's just losing a great guy. Why do women do this, its really frustrating to me.
Most Helpful Girl
Trust me when I tell you this. But Im really trying to get over being shy. If you are how you describe youself as and I see you are a bit interested in me and not making moves Im just shy because of previous rejection. I don't want to look stupid lol0
Most Helpful Guy
Because they're "conditioned" to refrain from initiating anything with a guy, no matter how much they might like him.0