We hooked up a year ago, then dated for a bit (He asked me out), then contiued to just hook up because I went back to school, three hours away. At that point we didn't really talk about what we were or our feelings. I moved back a few months ago, but things felt different and I felt like he didn't like me anymore, so we just continued to hookup and have been ever since, I'd see him every weekend usually when we went out. He felt rejected by me because I refused to kiss him back and messaged him saying: “I liked him but we should just be friends” because I was angry. He was upset over that and ignored me.
We talked a month ago when we were drunk. He told me what I said really upset him. He opened up a lot to me and said he is scared of being hurt and rejected. I told him I really do like him and he said he liked me also. But Im moving away for work in a week. We slept together twice after that. But I slept with some else right after (I don’t know if he knows). Then found out he went on a date with some girl two weeks ago.. And then when I saw him two weekends ago he completely ignored me and avoided me... yesterday I messaged him asking if we could meet up before I moved. He asked me when I was leaving again, and then never replied. Hasn't said anything since yesterday..
I tried, I wanted to have one last honest conversation with him, once and for all. End all the ambigioutiy, apologize and explain. I still have feelings for him and I care about him and always will. Is there any hope or a chance to fix this?
Even though you wanted to leave in good terms, you've said it already that you are better off as friends even though you didn't mean it that way. He took that hard and now again you are leaving. Either you both commit to whatever this is or just let him move on with his life; he clearly wants something more since he's really hurt about it and is now avoiding you in a way
But what's the point? There is no future for the two of you. He sees that, and is protecting himself from any heartache. I do have a question tho, If the two of you are/were hooking up? Why would you refuse to kiss him?
Bad communication as far as the eye can see! You both keep dancing around things without every really talking about them and then get upset when the other person doesn't know how you feel. Stop being ridiculous and just put it out in the open. You'll never find out if things could work out if you both just keep pretending that you aren't that into each other.
... He asked me when I was leaving again, and then he Never Replied. It is Obvious he is Not into Long distance Anything so Move on and Best Wishes here, dear, in your New move and groove. Good luck. xx
Ugh... why is it so hard for us to be honest? I envy my kids, because they are and mean no harm. Doll, you can keep trying to get an answer only to be rejected or ignored. It's rough and never do you know when to disengage. Lines become soooo blurred.
Yes text him and tell him you need to tell him something really important in person and it can't wait and please come over. Let him know your intentions be honest and if he means this much to you LDL sucks but if your willing to try then at least you can say you tried.