My boyfriend likes to start arguments about the stupidest shit and I never know what he wants me to do in those situations? Like he said that human pee was sterile so I told him that it was a myth and most urine contains around 33 types of bacteria, and when he looked it up and found that I was right he said "Well I never claimed it was 100% sterile, read this article, you were not actually right I was blah blah blah" And he refused to shut up until I said I said he was right. BUT if I don't feel like playing along and just say "yes you are right" too soon in the conversation he also gets mad and rants on about how I don't actually think he's right and I am just trying to get him to drop it. Why does he need to be right about absolutley everything all the time? I find it obnoxious and childish and I wish I could have a normal adult conversation with him like I can with everyone else our age. One day I was trying to be upbeat while we were discussing jobs and I said "There are lots of people who love their jobs!" and he got annoyed and said "Yeah well that's not really a job if you love it..." and I made the mistake of saying "If you get paid to do it then it's a job, enjoying it doesn't make it a hobby if you still get paid." and he just went off and got all defensive about how if you enjoy something it is automatically not a job anymore? I don't understand why he looks for any opportunity to be right and why everything has to turn into an argument? Guys what do you want a girl to do when you start an argument like this? I just want it to be over as soon as possible so we can talk about something else. But when I say he's right he gets mad, if I ask to change the subject he won't and keeps ranting, and obviously if I pretend I didn't hear him or try to walk away he also gets mad. I hate those agruments and if he doesn't stop I will leave him for someone less childish and argumentative, because it's embarrassing and ridiculous! How do I get him to stop as soon as possible once he starts one of these arguments?
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I agree with the others here: he's not going to change. He has left you no outs to avoid stress and what is ultimately an insult to you every time he does this. He cares more about his own perception of his intellect than he does about you. I bet he would get absolutely furious if faced with a similar blowhard but still he would never see that same behavior in himself. When he gets to the point of insulting your intelligence I think I would tell him he did that and then leave the room or house.1